I am in a long distance relationship. He lives in NC, I live in TN. In three days, it will have been three months.
I am set to meet him and spend the summer with him on June 20th.
He is very complicated.
At first, every time I would hang out with anyone, he would ignore me the entire time and just be very cold. Reason being, he was cheated on in the past, and no matter how hard he tries, he can’t seem to stop thinking the way he thinks.
When something is wrong with me, he doesn’t seem to care all that much, unless it’s a problem I have with him or our relationship. I didn’t think I was supposed to feel so alone. But the thing is, when he’s not ignoring me, being passive aggressive, not showing any sympathy, or completely shutting me out when something is wrong, he is very very great and I do love him. And he says he loves me.
And he tells me he is very lonely.
And he tells me there’s some things he just can’t tell me when it comes to his feelings.
And he tells me he isn’t sad, not happy. Just apathetic, and he “doesn’t fucking care who he leaves behind” , he wants to die.
And no matter what, I can’t get through to him. I have tried many different approaches.
Today, he is ignoring me.
Last night he had a “suicidal episode”
and frankly I feel like I am trying to diffuse a bomb without a specific time limit.
I just want him to at least hang on until I can see him.
I just can’t even get him to talk to me, and it’s very scary.