how do i get out of this!

i met a guy 2 years ago online and long story short we became close and stuff and that was the first ime for me doing this (were from different countries and different worlds) so yea im a naive person and im a girl and we all know how girls are with a guy whos is their first in something i really loved him with all my heart and meant it and all i got in return was lying and cheating and lots and lots of tears hes not a bad guy dont get me wrong he has alot of good in him but doesnt always make the best choices i guess and he had a rough childhood its just things didnt work out at all..but we stayed friend sand talked all the time and were close and all of course he asked me to get back together man times and tried many things but i always say no even though i really want him but i cant go through that again
and recently i foud out about alot of crap and saw msgs we fought i blocked him and we havent talked in long time but recntly a mutual friend convinced me to talk to him again cuz i needed closure so i did and we talk now and were friends again..not as close but yea….
now the problem is…he never touched me, we only talked and cammed online but still he WAS a first in many emotional things for me and yet hurt me so bad….why do i still care about him? why does it still bugs me if he ignores me? why do i always want his attention? why whenever i wanna post something im alaways like “omg hes gonna love that” or “i hope he lieks this post” or “thats so aimed at him” stuff like that why cant i move on? HOW can i move on??? :’(
plz help me im desperate and i just want him to be like other ppl i dont want him to always be on my mind and i dont wanna care for him like that after what hes done to me….and plz dont say rebound or date someone else ……im not that kind of girl…i need to help myself by myself
sorry its so long
thank you

Category: Dating & Relationships asked July 31, 2013

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nido

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I definitely do agree that it's better for you to move on. It's hard to get over any relationship no matter how great or bad they were okay? As cheesey as it's going to sound all it really takes is time! And you said you didn't want anyone to tell you to go back into another relationship, so I mean there are obviously other methods besides dating someone else. Hang out and have fun with friends, focus on you! Do hobbies that you enjoy, know that there are so many other people out there who are a lot closer mind you, and would treat you so much better and how to deserve to be treated. I would just say live your life, it will take a few months to get over him but know that you will eventually. And in the meantime just keep yourself occupied! At least you haven't kissed or anything so that would make for an easier time to get over it you know? Relationships depend a lot on physical contact as well so that just means you'll be able to get over it faster. Anyway, best of luck! Feel free to message me anytime, I definitely have been heartbroken over internet dating before :3

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bricheese

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I agree with bricheese,but id also like to add something else here.
Yes as you mentioned you are some what naive,but also very young by the sounds of your post.So i would suggest to take you time ,dont rush into things,next time perhaps get to know some one in person not the nett,before being in any relationship.
I truly dont think that knowing some one over the net,is really knowing them at all.Any one can say or do anything this way,and manipulate some one into thinking they know a person,and perhaps might even not see them self they are doing this.And then continue not being their true self one meeting in person.
Go have fun with a group of friends,and enjoy life,time will pass and you will find some one again.

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Anonymous

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