How do I get off my ass?

For awhile now, I’ve sat on the couch watching tv, wasting time. I’m now a freshman in college and I’m on my winter break. I see all of these people hanging with their friends over their breaks, having so much fun in pictures, tweets, etc. I don’t have as many friends as I used to because I’ve realized that a lot of people I tried to be friends with were immature. I’m also having a hard time facing my fears-music. I am a singer and a songwriter who is terrified that they are going to fail. I feel like I should be writing songs over this break, but every time I even think about the idea of writing a song, I get kind of disgusted. It’s ironic to me that I love music, yet I’m afraid to just do what I used to love to do. I need to find ways to keep myself busy over this break. I have two weeks left. Motivational tips? Anybody with the same experiences/struggles?

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justkeepswimming

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What you need is self confidence and an "I don't give a damn" attitude. The mind will easily recess to the thought of disgust or fear when it comes to something you care highly about. The way I see it, this is a test of your will to see how much you truly want something. Are you going to let your fear hold you back? Pushing beyond the boundaries that fear and doubt lay before you is without a doubt the most liberating feeling a person can experience. Go forth and write that song my friend. Do you think it's going to sound ridiculous, or that it will be embarrassing to sing? That's just the test. Push beyond that, dare to feel those emotions and feelings. They are literally the worst thing that can happen. Is that truly so bad?
No one ever said it was going to be easy. If it was, everyone would be doing it, and it wouldn't be so daunting or special. There is a reason it is hard to do. But you're not going to let that scare you off now, are you?

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Angel Demon

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Hello :) Dont give up on your singing or your writing please. I made that mistake i used to sing aswell and write songs and poems and play piano. I have given up on myself because of emotional issues and probably low self confidence as well. Ever since i moved out of home i lived in apartments and i am too afraid because everyone will hear me and words run through my head telling me ill never succeed. I do not write anymore because i felt like no one appreciated my poems. I think ill start to write again because no matter how your feeling happy, sad anything can be written about and it gets your feelings out and thats when talent shows...Aside from that my winter break just ended i started math already only couple hours mon-fri and english starts on monday. I had to leave some friends who were bad influences on me my bestfriend moved away, parents divorced, I gave my dog away, I basiclly am left with family, support worker, counsellors, doctor and pshychiatrist + my boyfriend who is on the rigs til the 15th but he doesnt seem to understand.. I guess I need someone to talk too aswell if your interested?

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Anonymous23

I am going through the same thing. I don't have much advice, but never give up. It feels so horrible to give up on things you love.

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