How do I get my boyfriend to be less controlling?

I think the best thing would be to invite him on a double date with one of your best friends and her boyfriend. Then you might be able to get him to go out with you in groups, then he'd still be there but you would still be socializing with everyone, you know? Just slowly increase the numbers and after a while start hanging out with other people. Just make sure that he knows it's only because you spend too much time with him and not that you're distancing yourself from him. Make sure you have little one on one sessions every so often to make sure he's okay with everything going on.

You're not going to like what I have to say: Cut him loose. You can't change this person. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cycle_of_abuse http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_abuse Other sources: FIRSTHAND EXPERIENCE. Sorry hon. PM me if you need somebody. -A

Nobody should ever say that they own you! I think you need to just be honest and explain how much you care for him but he is making the other aspects of your life miserable. You cant carry on this way

Thanks guys I'm just so lost in how to make this better.

If you continue to take how he's treating you, how he's pinning you down like this because of how suicidal he would get, you're life with him might become more and more miserable. You should really tell him how you feel, and if he really is looking out for you and is in your best interests, he will understand and he will want to change. You don't deserve to be "owned" by anybody, you are your own person and it's definitely not his place to put a tag on you and tell you where you can and can't go. Be honest and let him know that you'd like time with your friends as well, that you enjoy spending time with him but he needs to allow you to spend time with your friends too because he isn't the only person in your life. Wish you luck!

Listen, he is NOT GOING TO CHANGE no matter what you try and do... No man should be acting that way and controlling the woman that he loves.. If hes suicidal and paranoid then hes just going to have to get help for that because you should not be in that situation, it will only get worse and worse.