I feel like I am ready to meet new people, and discover a different “me” when interacting with other people. But lots of people have their guards up, and its a lot of work to start a friendship from scratch. And some previous acquaintances with whom I wish to rediscover a possible click, things in the past holds me back from reaching to them because I guess partly I still feel defensive about what happened and why I did what I did. Its funny but I am more than willing to give more and be the best friend I wish I have because I need one badly. But how do I deal with the possibility of being turned down?
I had in one occasion responded very late (a year late) to a message, and I was on the edge of my seat waiting for their response back, and it went by as if the other person has totally ignored me. I guess its terrible to have reserved that much excitement on one person, but I also don’t have a lot of time in my hands to reach out to too many people where I might have more than I can handle responding back.
Should I start first with reaching people that I feel I have wronged and resolve whatever guilt I still carry? (ie. I borrowed money from someone, but was too embarrassed to pay them back because I might’ve said some things too strongly a year later when we weren’t as good friends anymore. Like I was running away from the more important issue of talking too strongly to resolve the lighter issue of borrowing.) Or am I better leaving them alone, because they might have moved on and it might be a bit unnecessary trying to bring up something in the past? I just feel like guilt is holding me back in making new relationships, or rediscovering relationships in old friends, so that’s why I thought maybe that’s where I needed to start..