How do I deal with my boyfriend’s sexual anxiety?

Me and my boyfriend have been dating two years now. He has severe sexual anxiety, and I get angry with him for it. I know that I shouldn’t and that I should be more supportive, but I have major trust issues and feel like he doesn’t care enough to want me, or doesn’t think about how he is affecting me. His hormones are on the low end of normal, and he is taking anxiety meds now. How do I help myself from getting angry at him for it when he is trying?

Category: Sexuality asked December 1, 2014

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LunaMoon

2 Answers

What we feel and what we know can be two very different things. You feel angry and frustrated at him but know that he is trying and that he has his own issues to deal with. As you're aware of this, perhaps you can try to direct or express your frustrations in a different manner or else just let reason cut through how you feel and remind yourself that he isn't doing this to hurt you. Open a dialogue with him about this as well when you feel such, it may benefit you both to express to each other how you feel and acknowledge that you're both there to support each other.

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Simon

Try to not let your sexual desires effect your relationship. He might be insecure about what he is "packing" but you should support him if you love him.

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Eugene