When my mum found out, it took such a weight off my shoulders! If there is a chance that they will find out, it's a lot better that you tell them because then you can properly talk about it and your parents are more likely to want to help you with any of your relationship problems etc. You could try and hint it and drop it in conversation, for example if you're in a relationship, mention your partner by their gender. Writing a letter also seems to work well for a lot of people as it's easier to express how you feel about the whole situation and it gives your parents time to reflect on what you have said. Good luck!