How can I motivate myself?

I agree, that type of response and reasoning is illogical and dismissive and not at all something you need to hear. Perhaps a workout buddy/ healthy eating buddy may aid with motivation? It's often found to be helpful to engage in exercise with another person or group as they tend to create a supportive and encouraging environment.

I definitely agree with the workout buddy situation, but I also know that I have friends (being 21 myself) that don't have the motivation that I do to work out and end up flaking easily. I ended up finding a close friend and a family member to hold me accountable to what I was doing. They have been told that they can be as annoying as they want so that I would rather just get up and do it rather than deal with them. I was once diagnosed with depression and no longer struggle with it and it was 10 times harder to do the things I wanted to do when I was depressed. Now, after seeking out help and wanting to become better with every single part of my body, I find it so much easier to get out of the house and actually do the things I want to do. I found that when I was depressed, even though I wanted things to get better and wanted to feel "happy" again, I still was scared to change the way I lived because it was comfortable and I actually liked being able to sleep in and just watch TV all day. It became a sort of security blanket. Once I really truly realized that I wanted absolutely no part of it to be in me anymore, I did every thing I possibly could to make a LIFE change, not just a habit change. Once I made that decision, I began to see the world in a whole new way.Now I'm not saying this is going to work for you, but it definitely did for me. I struggled with depression for about 8 years or so and have had no symptoms of depressing for about a year and a half now. I love where I'm at, but it took me a LONG time to get here with a lot of patience and with great support. I just hope that my story can be of help to you for motivation even if we come from different places. Divorce is something that I don't have experience with, but do have a friend who is going through it now. I see what it is doing to her and I totally just want to give you a huge hug right now. <3 Hang in there, you can do it!!!

I read about an interesting motivation technique that is simple but works. It's called "Don't Break the Chain". You pick a goal (in this case, losing weight) and buy a calendar. Everyday, you do something to move you closer to that goal. It could be as simple as a healthy meal choice to taking a 20 minute walk. Every day you do something related to achieving your goal, you put a big "X" over that day on the calendar. Then you simply just don't break the chain. :) I've been using it for 2 months now to motivate me to start up a YouTube channel.

I use walk at home dvds and I've been walking 5 times a week for 3 weeks now. It's hard, but it'll get better eventually. I lost 4 pounds so far and I'm doing great. That's how I motivate myself when I pop in the dvd and just walk, walk, walk... :)