How can I handle Xbox guys?

Males are weird, sorry about that, but guys do it to check your reaction, try not to think much about it and give them back, also try to enjoy the game, if the comments affect you forget about the other people and just play for fun.

I like to talk to make friends but to also call out where I got killed since I play call of duty

You can report them, mute them. Or you may not talk to them. If they're a bunch of little kids, tell them to hit puberty first. If it's older guys, tell them to grow up and mature. kitchen jokes are as old as women rights >.>

Guys are haters, specially when they get spanked on an FPS by the opposite sex. Don't worry, their words are just signs of their insecurity.

It may be smart just to unplug your microphone, and only use it to talk to people you know.They can't know you're female unless they hear you.

They are being exclusive and hurtful by acting like that, and I'd just like to get it out of the way that you shouldn't take them seriously. If it's a problem with a specific group or team, leave. Find a better team. Even if it seems like you're letting them win, you should leave any toxic environment you can. If it's just a problem with general chat, my gaming usually doesn't involve interaction, so I'm not quite sure what to do to stop it, but just remind yourself that your size has nothing to do with your self worth, and that you are allowed to like the things you like, even if others don't approve or understand.

beak em back if you want respect!

Practice or have responses prepared! Give the jerks a taste of their own medicine and show you can hold your own and aren't affected by their words. Cuz that's all they are, no matter what you look like or sound like or your gender; words.