He’s clingy

I met a guy where I work. (Oh boy here we go) he’s sweet, funny and caring. He always makes me feel better when I’m down and we always have this playful banter. But he’s really clingy and I don’t like clingy, I’m a very independent person. I remember when I was talking on the phone with him and he told me that he doesn’t want to loose and and started crying. Not only that but he said that he doesn’t want to be anyone else’s. He already wants to see me outside of work and already tells me he loves me. He said he would never manipulate me emotionally but he already is. I feel like if I decide to not date him anymore he’ll get extremely upset over it. We’ve only been dating for about one week and five days now. I don’t know what I should do, I don’t want it to be awkward between us if I decide to break up with him and seeing each other at work.

I want to do what’s best for me though but I’m also taking his feeling into account.

I just, I don’t know

Category: Dating & Relationships asked September 30, 2015

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Odd One

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Its best to watch out for yourself first, your feelings should be the most important to yourself. If you decide you really like this guy back talk to him and work out his clinginess. Maybe its from a previous bad relationship or maybe he wants to take really good care of you *maybe its his first relationship and he doesn't know how to have one*. If you decide you really don't enjoy this tell him to back off and see where things go form there. You saying you want to take his feelings into account means you care somewhat for him.

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ScenicActor

I had a clingy boyfriend. He’s my ex-boyfriend now. I went out with him for about 1 year, but I wanted out of the relationship about 3 months into the relationship. The first 3 months of our relationship was great, but he became clingy; He was upset when I was too busy with school or work to talk to him. I kept trying to break up with him but he made it hard to leave. He constantly said that he didn’t want anyone else, and that he would never find anyone else anyway. He said that without me, he didn’t know what he would do. I was scared that he would harm himself. For the rest of our relationship, we constantly argued. He cried often because I constantly tried to break up with him. Eventually, I realized that I needed to put myself before him. I broke up with him for good after about a year of being with him. I was worried about him for the first couple of months after the break up, but I’m happier without him. When I was with him, I felt trapped, and I ended up resenting him. If i has ended the relationship the first time, I would have saved both of us months of anger. I also wouldn’t have broken his heart as badly as I did.You may not want to hurt his feelings and create an awkward situation at work, but you should break up with him if you don’t want to be with him. You risk leading him on and making him fall harder for you if you stay with him. If you do want to be with him, you need to sit him down and talk to him about his clinginess. He needs to understand that you do want to be with him. However, if he continues with his clingy behavior, he will loose you. Hopefully he will be able to grasp the seriousness of the situation. If not, you should break up with him if you cannot handle his clinging. Any awkwardness will eventually go away. And besides, awkwardness is better than feeling as though you’re handcuffed to this guy. The last thing you want is to feel as though you’re forced to be in a relationship you don’t want to be in.I hope that this guy will be able to realize that he needs to give you some space. But if he doesn’t, I hope you will have the courage to free yourself from him.

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