Caution: lots of venting ahead:
Im in a long distance relationship but my guy has been up and down with his mood recently and as a result I become moody too because when he is upset I get upset.
But now it is starting to get frustrating because I feel out of the loop.
I know the most important thing in long distance relationships is communication and right now I feel like we have none.
We used to have long conversations on skype whether it was on message, call, or video chat. We used to watch movies on video chat and fall asleep with each other.
Recently the only way he has been contacting me is through snapchat. He’ll send a hey or a photo of snow or something.But this isn’t conversation and it is not enough to hold a relationship.
It is okay for when we are both out and can’t talk for real, but now it’s at the point where we are BOTH online on skype and he will tell me he is doing nothing and he knows i am doing nothing too, and yet he does not want to message or video chat anymore.
It just feels like a drop in our relationship if we are both available and online and yet he doesnt have a desire to talk to me. I initiated the other day and asked to chat and he agreed but didn’t really want to and we had a quick chat. Another time I asked if he wants to watch a movie and he said it’s too late but then that he is not going to sleep yet.
I don’t want to nag him so I feel like I just need to stop trying for a bit. I can’t press him for why he’s being this way. I already asked him if he was okay and that if he needed to talk i am here. But he said its not like that and he doesnt need to.
I feel like there is nothing else I can do at this point. I just have to stop messaging him until he is ready to talk. And i guess ignore his snapchats? Because they are not real conversations. I guess I’ll just give him space. But I just hope he does end up bringing up whatever the issue is (even though he says there is none) because I couldn’t handle simply fading out. I need closure if we are going to stop talking altogether.
It just sucks because its so wishy washy like last night he was happy again and then today he’s back to not wanting to really talk to me.
My mom says I’m just being a girl and overreacting and that I shouldn’t bring anything up with him.
So i guess I just need to ignore him until he’s ready to share?
I’ve tried being nice and showing him I cared and he doesn’t respond to it.
I don’t know anymore.