has anyone else felt this way?

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Soooo i have come to a realization….everytime my Bf has brought up something about his past i have this feeling of jealousy it doesnt even have to do with another girl it could be anything Like him going to a fair with his friends before he met me or something like that and a spark of jealousy will happen…of course i dont show him that i smile and listen to his stories…i asked myself why do i feel this way? Thats when i realized im jealous because he HAD a life before me he was happy before me and for me i had no life and didnt know what happiness truly was …..when i realized this i felt utterly sick and pathetic …im jealous of his stories and that i cant really relate to them ….im GOING to change this because i know its wrong …..but has anyone ever felt like this?

asked May 14, 2015

2 Answers

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I understand the way your feeling. Sorry I don't really know what to say but I think that maybe you should try to think of it in a different light. For example, rather than being jealous about this, try thinking that you're lucky to have a boyfriend who isn't sad, depressed and he opens up to you about his past which is a big thing.
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Remember that he is sharing parts of himself with you, instead of hiding his past. Knowing what has made him happy or sad in the past, will help you make memories with him in the future. Maybe the jealousy you feel is displaced on to him, but what might be going on is that you lack confidence in yourself. But remember, if he didn't want you in his life or didn't care about you or respect you, then he wouldn't tell you anything of his past and he wouldn't have chosen you to be in his future. As for not having a past, everyone has some kind of past; whether it was happy or crappy, sharing little bits will help you move forward.