Lately I’ve been feeling a bit down, mainly due to the fact that, given my age (21) I still haven’t got into a relationship at all. I’ve been looking through a couple of sites and forums and it didn’t take me long to find other people reporting some similar situations to mine.
My social skills are pretty much in-existent, especially when talking to someone that I’m interested in, even if it is just a small interest. Most of the posts I read talked, in some extent, about breaking the ice when meeting someone new. Obviously, this is a huge issue to introvert people like myself. I’ve seen people replying that a good straight approach would often do the trick. Something like: “Hi! I saw you across the room and I thought you were really cute, so I figured I should introduce myself”.
But, I mean, come on… even if you’re in some sort of social event like someone’s party, for example, where you’re supposed to hang out with several people you don’t know, if some guy would approach you out of the blue and say something like that… wouldn’t it be obvious what he was actually going for? Maybe I’m thinking of this the wrong way, but if I was the girl in this scenario, I would immediately think that the guy would be some sort of a ladies man and his only goal here was to get in my pants.
As a result, whenever I’m in some social event, I tend to stick with my (small) group of friends (I probably just hangout with 2, maybe 3, people on a regular basis). The only way I get to meet anyone new at all is if they actually know my friends as well.
So, in a nutshell, is that “straight to the point” approach really any good? I wonder…
Thanks for reading!