Feeling horrible (Love advice)

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Theres this guy I met this year and he’s in 2 of my classes. Today He told me That he likes me…but I don’t like him back. I’ve never had a boyfriend, so I’m a little scared. I told him very gentle that I really think he’s a good person And i truly care about him but I don’t have feelings for him. (you know how when you like someone you have butterflies or can’t wait to see them, I don’t have that) He’s taking a semester off next year. I See him as a friend and I know what it’s like to be rejected. I feel horrible. I am always questioning why nobody likes me than a guy says he likes me and I say no. I just don’t see myself with him. I listened to my heart and said no, but is it wrong? I really want love but He’s not the one and it wouldn’t be fair if I pretend I have feelings for him. He understood but I could see in his eyes that he’s hurt. Please any advice. I also feel bad because it took him A LOT of courage to tell me he likes me. I’m only 18 btw.

Category: Tags: asked March 10, 2014

3 Answers

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Unfortunately it's his own life battle he needs to get through. We all go through something and he obviously needs to learn rejection right now. I understand it sucks but you shouldn't feel the way you do. If you don't like him, you don't like him and that shouldn't be forced. If you don't mind being his friend, then that's what you do. If he crosses any boundaries you tell him no. I'm sure he won't, but you are most definitely not in the wrong. Rejection is part of life.Good luck.
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"I don’t like him ", "I don’t have feelings for him. ", "I just don’t see myself with him.", "He’s not the one and it wouldn’t be fair if I pretend I have feelings for him.".

You were both honest and you let him down gently. You can safely stop kicking yourself in the ass and second-guessing yourself.

Don't let your head get wrapped up in the idea that "anyone is better than noone", because that is deeply flawed logic; the wrong one is very simply the wrong one.

You're ready to be in a relationship, you're just not throwing yourself into any potential that crosses your path, you are being responsible. Relax. You did the right thing.
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You would of hurt him far more if you said yes and he found out you only said it to not hurt his feelings. You shouldn't feel horrible, the way you dealt with it was mature and shows how caring you are, the fact you are feeling bad as he is upset. He will get over it , he will also appreciate your honesty that's what makes a good friend :)