Family trouble

Why does your aunt say your wrong? Can you tell me the story? an your name. Remember some people will not change.

Young lady, there comes a time in our lives when we learn to assert ourselves, even if the consequences are negative. This includes to friends and former authority figures such as parents; you cannot allow yourself to be ruled all of your life, eventually you have to mature and be the source of your own rules.

Being older does not make someone right. "Respect your elders" does not mean "let older people walk all over you".

Tell her how you feel, but in a respectful way... (couldn't think of anything else)

You can't change anyone. You can change how you react to them. Sometimes your changed reaction will modify behavior. Try "I'm sorry Aunt So and So, but I disagree. If you don't mind, I'm going to do this my way." Take it from someone who is "older"... we don't always know best. Some people don't realize times and methods have changed. Be respectful, but firm.

I have quite a few older female family members like this and it certainly isn't fun. The one thing that really solved it was moving out on my own. I know they talk about me the way they talked about my sister and my cousins when I was little, but being out of that environment has really helped. I tried asserting myself when I was younger, mostly because they talked crap about my dad constantly. It never seemed to help and it was hard to ignore.But being out of the environment and having my own adult problems to consider has taken it off my mind. You can't change everyone, I agree with Madison. You can tell her that what she is saying is bothering you and she may ease up or be a little more considerate about what she says, or she may laugh it off and continue.Best of luck.