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So all my sisters and brothers tease me on how I’ve never had a boyfriend or about boys. Well I have never gotten one because I have insecure issues and I have other issues but that is not the point. Sometimes they tease me and ask me are you a lesbian? Which I’m not but it gets me mad when they ask me that. I really don’t have anything against gays or bisexuals etc.. But when they ask me that I feel like they are saying I’m so ugly that no guy will ever like me that I have to turn lesbian because no guy will like me. I know it sounds absurd but that’s what it make me feel. And I can’t open up to them and tell them why I don’t have boyfriend because of my issues because they’ll just call me wierd or I’m afraid they’ll just laugh at me and make fun of me play fully. I know they don’t mean to hurt my feelings but they do. And it doesn’t help that they ask me everyday almost literally if I have a boyfriend? Its insane and annoying even my mother ask me too. She even plays around asking me where is my boyfriend or if I have met someone? And it gets me mad because I tell her I don’t have one and she still ask me. If I have one? Idk what to do? My family is not the type to just open up to each other and be close? I feel helpless and I know they wouldn’t understand my personal issues. Advice? I’ll take any please?

Category: asked December 14, 2013

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I understand how hard it is for you, family not understanding you is one of the worst feelings in the world. I know it's extremely difficult but you mustn't let their comments get to you. You will have a boyfriend eventually one day, looking at your profile it says that you're 15 years old. That's really young! You've got your whole life ahead you, around the teenage years it can be quite hard to find a boyfriend that's understanding, loving and considering of your issues while a large majority of teenage boys are only interested in the fun side of relationships. Try not to let you're family get to you, remember they've got no understanding of how you feel and stuff so how would they know? I'm sure there are many other people you can turn to to talk about your issues. Also you've got the whole Blahtherapy community behind you so you don't ever have to feel that you've got no one to talk to. Hope I helped :)
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HI It's perfectly normal to feel that way at that age as it seems like the most important thing in life. As important it may seem you will realize that it's not a source of happiness.I learned that people around me that tell me negative things about me are seriously misguided themselves. People usually project their own insecurity, it's up to you to believe it or not. Usually our insecurities are brought on by our upbringing and believing the lies. Please realize that all this so called problems that you may be struggling are not that important. You are my fellow human being, my sister and I have a lot of love for you just for that reason alone. More you listen to their nonsense more insecure you will become. Instead realize that you are a human being an you are capable of accomplishing anything you chose to. This includes not believing the lies other people tell you about yourself. Just make a conscious effort to be happy and enjoy your life. Don't limit yourself by listening, please know you can do and be anything you want. You can also have any boyfriend you like all you have to do is truly believe it. You get what you give so in simple terms and my honest opinion, If you put in great positive attitude life will hand you a great positive life. If you put out negative and insecure life will hand you just that Everything happens for a reason and it is a lesson in life. As long as you believe peoples lies they will keep telling them to you, once you stop believing them they will no longer have ANY power over you. That's just my personal perspective :-)Mark
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Reading this question I thought I was about to give you some advice, but you're family sounds a lot like mine and after I finished reading this I was just at a blank and couldn't think of anything to say. But I do want to say, try and open up to family, or someone in your family, whichever member you feel closest with. The worst thing that could happen is they just don't know how to react, I don't think they'd make fun of you for being insecure.
That's the best advice I can give, and I would like to know if you talk to someone and how that works out if you do.