Does time heal wounds?

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My grandma passed away in December and although she has over 40 grandchildren, I was one of the select few she was close with. I saw her every day and she even paid for my first year of community college since I fell short with money. Since she’s passed, I stopped going to college and haven’t been myself. I think about her all the time. What are some ways to get my mind to think of happy things about her instead of “I’ll never get to do (insert activity) with grandma again” ??

Category: Tags: asked October 13, 2013

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Hey there honey, I'm very sorry for your loss. Losing loved ones really does suck and isn't fun, but time most definitely can heal wounds! Think about it, your grandmother loves you very much and I'm sure she wants you to be happy! Everytime you're feeling down about it, just think, "Hey, I'm sure she wouldn't want me to be upset about something I can't change, I'm gonna smile and do blah blah blah."Ya know? Don't spend time being upset over something you can't control. Instead, work on the things you CAN control, like your feelings! (As explained^) If you need someone to talk to, you can totally message me! Hope I helped! xoxo
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I stopped caring for a lot of things. She passed the on the last day of my first semester and winter break was starting. I had 4 classes the next semester but only went to 2 and was put on academic suspension. I had a crappy job and car. I was depressed, my nephews (who I take care of) felt the change too. I got a new job, still don't have a car, not in school, and still taking care of my nephews. Ever since my freshman year in high school, my life has been one depressing pit. I'm starting to climb out and I hope I can stay out.
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Time does heal wounds, but you must also come to acceptance yourself. Sometimes it takes a conscious effort to get over things like this. It is good that it sounds like you are turning things around. If it helps, maybe think of how your grandma would like you to live your life. Ask yourself if she would be happy with you dropping out of school. I'm sure she loved you and wanted to see you succeed. Living a life you feel she would be proud of might make you feel better about her passing. Again sorry for your loss.
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I know where you're coming from because I lost a loved one too who I was close with, my brother. It's really hard and unfortunely time doesnt really heal wounds. It's been almost 4 years and I'm still grieving his loss. It gets a little easier but you will still miss her very much. I am so sorry for your loss and if you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here for you!
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Time helps a lot, but never fully heals you.Unfortunately you will always have a little bit of sadness, but you'll become numb to it soon enough. If you need anyone to talk to im here for you. Feel better!
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I lost my great grandma, who parented me, a month ago. She was my greatest role model, and I was her favorite person in the world. I know how you feel!

I do not think that it is time that heals your wounds. Wounds can either heal or fester in time, and the choice is yours. I think that recovery is an active process, not a passive one. It's always trying to look for ways to be healthy and ways to move on, to find other things that have meaning and create new memories. I think that time helps, yes. But you have to help it along a little yourself.
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It happens to us all. It will happen again and again. I hope one day, hopefully in the far off future there will be people around to morn for me. But not shut down.
I would advise to try to accept death for the reality it is. Time will get you better. But it would be easiest on you if you can try to put feelings in perspective asap. I wouldn't say ignore it or keep it in. Definitely take your time if you feel you need to.
No one who is worthy to be your friend wants to see you falter including yourself. I hope you know you have the strength to both be kind to yourself and feel better as soon as possible.
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I want to start this out by saying i'm so sorry for your loss.. I can't imagine how it feels to lose somebody so close to you.. :/ I don't believe time heals all wound especially when it's such a deep wound But do Think of it this way.. You don't have to completely move on or forget about her in order to be happy. She is on your mind because she wants you to think of her. She wants you to think about her in a way where you'll remember what she taught you, what she has given you, what she had provided for you to see you become the women you are today. Your grandma offered to pay for your college tuition because she wanted to see you succeed. Even Though she's not here physically doesn't mean she's not cheering you on. Don't give up on life. Live for her Bree. Do well in school for her. Make her proud. Do all the things you always wanted to do with her and feel her spiritually there experiencing it with you. If it helps write in a journal as if you're sending her letters. Write about how your days went, how you experienced something new and thought of her, just anything that would put the positives back into your life. Keep being strong and don't give up. Let her know you're fighting through this for her. Keep going girl and i know one day you'll be able to look back at this and be proud that you have done everything just for her.
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Hey there, I'm really sorry about your loss. You and your grandmother must have had a really close bond with each other. As time progresses, so does acceptance. You may never be able to do all those activities with her again, but you can savor the memories she had left you with. You are her grandchild, you're her legacy. I'm sure she has had a good go in life, and that she's very proud of you. You can try thinking about the things you can do that would make her proud and happy. Live each day in her memory. We are all humans, we all have energy, energy is neither created or destroyed, it is just transformed. Your grandmother isn't gone, she's still here with you, you may not see her, but she will always guide you every step of the way. I can relate in how it feels like to lose a loved one. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm available. Just leave a message. I hope all goes well for you.