do i stay or do i go?

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i’ve been with my girlfriend for over 2 years (i’m a lesbian, 18 years) and i’m so in love with her, but it’s not the same anymore, i’m continuously controlled by her, and always have to do what she says, she hurts me emotionally a lot, and puts me down.
But i still love her unconditional amounts, and i’m not sure if i can live without her

Category: Tags: asked October 7, 2013

4 Answers

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Hi Jessie. I know the tough times you are going through, but as far as i can make out, you partner is dominating over you. Both the person in a relationship are equal and respected by the other individual. If your partner seems to be hurting you emotionally, or making you do things that are you are not comfortable with, she just doesn't love you the way you love her; Because if she did, she would not have treated you like this in the first place.Well i know it is easy to ask someone to walk out of a relationship, but you need to make sure, your self respect remains intact. Try having a word with your partner first, talk to her about the way you feel. If she does love you, she will surely understand. If not, no matter how difficult it may be, you have to make a move as that relationship is not meant to be forever. Love yourself enough to walk out of the things that give you pain. You deserve someone who will love you unconditionally the way you are. I don't know how much my reply would help, but in my opinion, you should remain strong and believe that no one can make you feel low or unimportant, not even yourself. Good luck. :)
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The feeling that you won't be able to live without her is one of the marks of an abusive relationship. The longer you stay, the worse it will get. The sooner you leave, the faster you'll heal. You felt the need to ask this question. That means that, deep down, you already know the answer.
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his relationship is not healthy for you , you will lose yourself in the process and become weak , by time you will lose your own personality and fall in a life of depression my advice to u is to leave now , you deserve better , your should convince your self that you deserve better she might be a great person at time and you might be in love , so deeply , but you should ask your self is it worth being in pain ? is it worth living in depression ? only you could help yourself , so my advice for you to follow what your head is saying cuz ur heart is just to much in love to help you it will hurt i wont say it will not , and you will feel that you did the bad choice but each time you feel this way remember that you will be more sad if u keep this up ,,, move on dear , just move on and bare with the pain a bit better than baring with it for a life time ... good luck sweet heart
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The fact that you state you can't "live without her" sends up a huge red flag. It's a sign of submission to another human being, especially one that is apparently already controlling/dominating you. You are being abused. To answer your question, yes. You should leave the relationship as soon as possible and seek help because something tells me, she won't let you go without a fight.