Do I have a right to be angry?

some terrible things happened when I was growing up. I can remember standing infront of my school till 8:30 pm because my parents forgot to come pick me up. My dad used to drop me off at school at 5:00 am and I would have to wait in the cold till school started three hours later. I had to walk to my christmas concerts and back, I was in grade three and I was walking home at ten at night. There where times when I woke up and when to my parents room and they just weren’t there, I would go check for there cars. No they just got up and left me in the middle of the night. I can vividly remember being locked in my room, getting slapped in the face and having my mouth taped shut as punishments. There where times when my parents didn’t even have time to make food or do laundry. Being as young as i was when that started I couldn’t do anything about it. None of this is going on anymore, but I still feel hurt. Do I really have the right to be angry anymore.

Category: Family asked December 19, 2014

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Bird

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It's understandable that you're angry. You might feel that way for a long time. Though holding a grudge isn't going to help you either. People make mistakes and unfortunately sometimes parents make mistakes as well, really wrong mistakes. Try to remember that in the end they're only human, not that it makes up for their behavior. What they did was wrong and they should apologize. I hope that they regret what they have done in the past. It's good that this doesn't happen anymore. I hope your future will be brighter.

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Rain

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It makes sense that your angry, I've been in a similar position. To this day if I think about I do get angry and cry. But having hatred in the heart will only stop the love from coming. I believe you should forgive but never forget. Make this be a life factor that gives you willpower to do anything and everything for your loved ones.

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Selena17

You have the right to feel anything and anyway that you feel, especially since you've been through so much. Emotions are a part of life. Where would we be if we had to justify everything that we felt? That sure would be really complicating and confusing. However, being angry takes so much effort as well as dwelling on the past and heartache. Being angry isn't fun. I'm not saying that what has happened is right in anyway, but perhaps moving forward, moving onward, is the best direction to go?

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Alexis

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You can be angry but it won't help you.I think you should ignore your parents mistakes and make a much better life for yourself by studying hard and you now also have a good experience on how to understand other children and how to treat them.I have been through the same too ( Not taped but everything else yes) And i think of it as more of a boon as it helps me understand why ppl act like this... I feel for you but the more faster you become independent and financially strong the more life you can enjoy... You have a awesome time ahead....

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i say that you can be angry for what they did and stuff like that but i say you shouldn't waist your time on being angry and just look at the future life is too short to be angry at things like that forever. you can and you have the right to because they shouldn't do that to you but I'm saying don't be mad about it all the time and don't waste your energy,time and breath on it

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bunny

You have every rights to be angry, considering how they treated you like shit according to your story. But lets not waste your time dwell on the past. Put your head up, look forward, and let this experience be your lesson. Holding grudge wouldn't take you anywhere. Good luck!

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blueberrycheese

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Yes, you most definitely have a right to be angry, but just because you have the right doesn't mean it's the thing to do. No matter how hard it seems, you're going to have to try and forget what has happened. It's the past, it will no longer physically hurt you. Try and find small positive things in your life. Smile a little bit more. Laugh a bit more. If you can overcome this, you'll look back and be so proud of yourself. You can say you did it.

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Maddie