Do I confront him or just let it go?

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Well, I came out last year and one of the first people I told was a good friend of mine who was also gay. I didn’t tell him because I wanted to go out with him, I told him because I thought he could help me through it. I knew that he fancied me, but I told him I only liked him as a friend and I wasn’t even ready to have a relationship with anyone anyways. He told me when I told him about me that if I found someone to go out with then not to tell him, as he wouldn’t be able to deal with it. We are pretty close friends, and we are currently touring in a two man show together, and I’ve found out that he has told people that we are an item and are sleeping together which is just not true. Do I confront him about it or just let it go?

Category: asked February 17, 2014

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Confront it. He is not just idealizing a relationship with you, he is fabricating one. He wants to be with you, but he is not accepting that the affection is one-sided. That is not love, that is fixation. Take another friend with you, someone who can corroborate hearing the false story about you two and set him straight, let him down easy, but firmly.
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Thanks for your reply. It's very helpful.