I lost a very close friend of five years awhile back. Someone I’d talk to every day and night without any sort of end. This last year they moved away but it never changed the relationship. Ever since I’ve become increasingly more lonely with realization of what I have done. Ever since talking to them I felt i never needed a social life of any sorts because i had the perfect person to understand me and talk to. I’m extremely anti social and after two months at college I cant call a single classmate by name. I’m a bit of a wreck since that happened and I’ve grown cold and bitter to my family. Is there anything i can do to help my situation?
Some good ideas would be:
1) try and spend time with classmates and jut hangout.
2) find someone who is in the same classes and has the same interests as you.
3) never segregate your self from the world as the more interactions you have the more ok you become with talking to others.
4) join clubs to get involved in events and other fun things to do.
and last but not least keep talking with family and friends as that can help you are probably feeling lonely at college because you are not around friends or family. Its 100% understandable and is something most people go through. Never blame your self for the world's problems(trust me I have tried). And make sure you keep your personal health ok. Hope this gives you some ideas.
Your Friend Collin Leck
In very much the similar boat with you in terms of long term and 99% of the time it isnt because you are a bad person and i guarantee it ultimately it in terms of finding friends at college is a bit of 1) luck, 2) believing in yourself, 3) time, things will happen you have your whole life ahead of you and i guarantee at college it seem's as though everyone is going out and having parties and you are the only one in this situation but believe me it isnt the case, just the only tips if have is don't take defeat personally and just keep on trying because if you dont succeed well it didnt get any worse did it?Sorry this isnt the greatest help as I feel going through this stuff personally it is often hard to take a step back and give the best advice but ultimately it has to do with just utter self confidence you dont have to be the best you just have to convince yourself that you are.
What about you get involved in situations when you NEED to interact? I am really shy and anti-social like you, but I've been doing improvements by joining work groups, starting small conversation, even hobbies. What about a sport? Maybe music classes? Anything that can make you meet people. Or even volunteering. The thing is the only solution (and I'm being 100% truthfull here) you HAVE to get out of your confort zone to socialise more. But will be super worth it. If you need more advice on this you can always PM me :)
I hope I could help you and cheer you up a bit. Wish you the best of luck!p.s- sorry for my very crappy 3:30 am english grammar and spelling xD