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So recently, i have been having a lot of trouble in choosing between these two guys that i think i may be in love with. It has been tearing me apart for the past few weeks and i still dont know what to do. Here is a basic description of the two:
Brendan:
This boy is absolutely in love with me. He would do anything under the sun to make me happy and he tells me i am beautiful every day. He is a little older than me. He also can be weird like he says weird things sometimes. He has friends but is not very popular. His friends are weird and are not friends with the people that i know. He also does gymnastics which i think is gay and i would be sort of embarrassed to date him even though i really do like him. I talk to him every day and he has been my absolute best friend and i dont want to break his heart. My mom, my aunt, and one of my friends told me to choose him because he “cares about me more than anything”

Phil:
This boy likes me a ton. I havent known him as long as i have known brendan but he does like me a lot. He is very popular and is friends with a lot of the guys i know. He plays lacrosse which is normal. He is also very immature and is a couple months younger than me (i am 15 turning 16 soon). I have been obsessed with him for the past few months, but my friends tell me that he talks to other girls. We were talking in the month of january but at the end of the month he hooked up with this girl kaitlyn that he had apparently not gotten over which crushed me and im afraid that he is going to hurt me again. He feels horrible about hooking up with her while we were talking and he texts me and says he cares about me so much and he doesnt want things to end between us. My mom, my aunt, and one of my friends tells me to end things with phil and date brendan, despite his weirdness.

Sorry for the long description but im really stuck and dont know what to do. Should i date brendan, phil? should i end it with both of them? i recently hooked up with brendan also so im worried that if i end things with him he will be heartbroken, because he is literally in love with me and i dont think i could lose him. He’s my best friend. It’s just annoying because my friends dont like him.

Category: asked February 23, 2015
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This could be really hard. Choosing between 2 guys is NOT easy.. I suggest you just follow your heart on who you really love the most.. And this phil guy, i don't think he really loves you like, the word "love" is a strong thing, if he hooked up with a girl knowing that he's talking to you and saying he likes you and stuff, i'd probably not trust him. But the first guy, i don't think he's that bad at all.. I think he really cares for you if he would do anything for you to be happy. And also, he is decent enough for your parents to trust him. You are lucky to have him.. And being popular or not doesn't really matter when it comes to love.But if you think you're not ready for this, i suggest you just focus on your studies, if the guys really loves you then take it seriously, cause if you think about it as a puppy love, then you would hurt him... I'm only giving advise here, in the end it's your decision, goodluck~! Just think wisely xoxo
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Maybe you should focus on which one makes you happy and comfortable. Just because the first guy does gymnastics, does not make him "gay" since you just hooked up with him and Phil sounds like he's not that into you if he has to hook up with other people. You're already worried about him hurting you again so why put yourself in that situation? I think you're focusing too much on their popularity or what others would think, when that really should not matter if you cared about these two guys. also, i agree with the others, focus on school because that's more important. If you're serious about a relationship then go for the one that will make you happy and not hurt you
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There's this saying. If you're in love with two people, choose the second one because if you truly loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second one.
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"Which I think is gay" you sound too immature to date anyone. Stay in school, kid.
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If you're turning 16, may I recommend you concentrate on your schoolwork (like Sumer pretty much said). No need to rush love, enjoy your childhood and don't rush to be an adult.
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It's obvious darling. Choose the one who loves you.Who cares about you. Who talks to you daily and has the aroma which is capable of making you feel great around him. You're seriously going to let all that go because he plays gymnastics? You shouldn't be embarrassed as long as you're in a healthy relationship which I know you won't be if you choose Phil. Phil is immature and doesn't understand anything about girls except for hooking up and flirting.He makes you feel special.But whose to say he's not texting maybe 5+ other girls and making them feel special? If he hooked up while he texted you(and god only knows what THOSE texts consisted of..). Then he obviously likes to set the illusion that you're the only one-he just wants to have fun.He'll either hook up with you then drop you or drop you in general-you can't exactly trust him; besides you know Brendan more than Phil. You choose Phil then you will LOSE Brendan. He's in love with you.Brendan is for you-it doesn't matter how popular Phil is,he will only screw with your emotions which is not what you need right now with school and all. Team Brendan <3
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