The biggest requirement of this site is being able to openly and freely discuss one’s problems so other may offer solutions. All fine and dandy.
Except, in my mind, it is the equivalent of revealing one’s weaknesses. I am adamantly against this. I hate the idea of any one knowing my weaknesses, vulnerabilities, etc. I absolutely refuse to even appear weak.
Thus, my question. With all this in mind, can this website aid me at all, or should I just not waste my time?
The good thing about this site is that it is completely anonymous. We offer a judgement free zone, unbiased ears, and open hearts. We are only here to help you, never hurt you. I completely understand your reluctance to open up to people. There are so many things going on in my life that I won't even tell my best friend. But here I feel like I can open up to people I don't even know. I can face my demons with the help of a total stranger, and after we disconnect, our lives go back to normal (better than before, in most cases) with a lighter heart and stronger self. If you'd like to chat, my inbox is open. Good luck young patawan, and may the force be with you.
Is an impressive building strong if the base is weak but presents a strong facade? Is a strong man strong if the only why he is strong is physically? Basically saying we are all weak no body wants to appear weak but sometimes you have to in order to get past the facade and strengthen the actual foundation. If you decide to talk I am an open ear.
That's exactly how I felt!! But after this site, now I feel that everyone has problems and there's always someone out there who knows what I'm going through. My problems aren't a weakness and neither are yours.
You said: 'can this website aid me at all, or should I just not waste my time?' The site can't help you but the people on this site can. Not everybody feels comfortable talking about their problems, which is ok. It's your choice. Your privacy. Luckily for you, 'being able to openly and freely discuss one’s problems' isn't a necessary requirement to get help. If you don't want to consult with people, consult with a book. Read about other people's experiences. That way you won't have to open up to anyone or worry about your privacy. How can this site help with that? It can help because there are a lot of knowledgeable and experienced people here who can suggest the right reading material. Or are prepared to share their own experiences in the matters that interest you. You can get help and advice without exposing yourself as long as you're prepared to listen. All you need to do is open a discussion or ask about a certain theme. After all, seeking additional knowledge and better understanding is the most sensible thing to do in any situation. I've never met anyone who would see good sense as a weakness.
I think it is a matter of perspective and attitude GBWest, to be honest. You say that, "..in your mind, you would be revealing your weaknesses...", but there is a certain amount of anonymity with this site, if the "listener" doesn't know who they are talking to, how could they exploit your perceived weaknesses?Now, I am not naïve, I am aware that this will not help with the feeling of having exposed yourself, I'm afraid the only person who can deal with that is you. But I don't believe that you can claim to be wasting your time on this site if you do not make the effort to begin with. After all, there is no fairy wand and no mind readers, the absolutely maximum help that you can possibly receive on here will only ever equal the effort that you yourself will make.Best of luck and kind regards.