Can someone help with my over-thinking problem?

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okay well..this is what constantly goes through my mind…this is what causes me so much stress..
What happens after death? Is there still a me? Do i still exists? Do we just see black once we die? Do we see a light? Do we just see ourselves leave our dead body and wonder around the world as a spirit? Do we go to ‘heaven’ and see our family? Do we feel our body decompose? Do we dream a never ending dream? Do we see the world changing from where ever we go after death? What happens exactly after death? Do we reincarnate with or without our memories?
It all scares me about what actually happens… I’m scared of the unknown…but noone understands me when i say this this…even if i explain my thoughts in the most simplest way…they dont get it.
These thoughts won’t seem to leave…no matter what i do i can’t stop thinking about this.
It all started for no reason i can think of..noone had been in a accident or died in my family or friends of anyone that i love ect. and so there is no possible reason that could have brought me on to over think about something like this…it kinda just happened.
It started as a normal day for me at work, i was drying the cutlery and putting them away in their tins and then for no reason suddenly all these thoughts came into my mind.
I have been overthinking other things like:
What happens to me when i grow older? Will i live my life alone? Will i find ‘the one’? Will i ever have kids? Will i ever have a dog or other pets in general?
I’m scared of if i don’t life my full life…that if i die young…and how i will die…will it be painful? or pain free?
I don’t want to live forever…but i don’t want to die..
i want to kill myself but then i don’t cause i wanna see what life will be like if i stay…
All this and other things i can’t think of right now…keeps twisting and twirling around my head and it cause me so much unhappyness..Like i barely have a clear mind because it’s constantly there pissing me off.
i want all this gone…but i dont know how…and i dont know if it ever will…i dont want to have to cope with this for the rest of my life…

Category: Tags: asked May 2, 2015

7 Answers

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So you should think like there is a world that we are living right now, and you should enjoy this life. Instead of thinking about that kind of further future try to be happy with what you know don't feel unhappy because things that even impossible to know. Think about your daily live and try to improve it, make it enjoyable because one day you will learn but that time youll already missed these days which you will understand that you just wasted your time.
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Hiya love, From what I've gathered from different articles etc as someone who isn't in fact well-familiar with the subject, it's that one reason why we over think, is because we've taken in too much information, more than the brain can handle at once.

This may sound cheesy and cliche, but the first part of dealing with anything, is acceptance. To realize that things have gone out of hand and something has to be done. I usually find that sometimes instead of just saying "well, stop doing that" it's easier to have something to actually work with to help yourself and be able to work through your problem.

I found this great article with some steps to help stop over thinking which one of my dear friends swear by which it's written by a psychologist and a former over thinker.(http://themindunleashed.org/2014/09/8-ways-stop-thinking-find-peace.html)

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You should occupy yourself and start taking hobbies to distract yourself from sometimes morbid ways of thinking. you should accept that sometimes in life things are just uncontrollable (i.e. death) and once you realise its out of your control, you should be able to live your life without overthinking and accept that what happens, happens.I know this sounds strange but listen to Paul Mckenna on youtube. He does crazy things like trains your brain, to get out of the conflicting thoughts, so that you can have full control over your mind, what you feel, how you think, etc. Look him up on youtube its really good. He got my ex-bf's mum to quit smoking. :)))
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there are some theories that may help you. When we die, we relive our lives by memory for 7 minutes. That's how long the brain is active for after death. Death is when the brain becomes inactive, not when your heart stops. And as a personal theory, I just think about it as falling asleep. You know how you fall asleep, right? You don't remember the action, only waking up. Maybe a dream. Maybe just black. But I think, after a burst of horrible pain( depending on the way you die, of course) you feel nothing. Then you close your eyes, and you relive your life, and then you fall asleep. Forever.But listen. When you die, do you want your memories tk be filled with .... The thoughts of how you're gonna die?Stop thinking. When you start thinking about death, start focusing in something random. Look at the sky. Talk to yourself. "The sky is so blue today. The sky is blue today. I see a cloud. The cloud is shaped like a teardrop" or something along those lines. Roxus in it, and when the topic gets boring, think about something else. Think about puppies, I don't know.As said above, make your life busy. Take up some hobbies. Try something new. Love life, live in the now. Live in the now, but you're allowed to think about the future, too.But hey, curiosity. Research it, look stuff up - maybe you will go into the sciences or something. But don't kill yourself. No matter what, no matter how curious you get or how hard life becomes, don't put that blade to your throat. Cause when you start to bleed, your gonna want to live. So live life- date. Marry someone. Have some kids. Go to Disney or something.If no one of these work, try to visit someone who can help you professionally. The sooner, the better- the sooner, the more life you will live.
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When I get into one of those existential crises I like to read these, they're something to think about and kinda relieving: ~ http://sixpenceee.com/post/96186589939/an-egg-one-of-the-stories-out-there-that-make-you ~ http://sixpenceee.com/post/90314937949/dream-0n-l1ttle-dreamer-mrsmilesfrown ~ http://sixpenceee.com/post/113746407924/department-of-complaints-by-reddit ~ http://sixpenceee.com/post/62384265080/the-after-life-experiments
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No one knows what death is like, so if you're scared of death, then don't try to be a safe-freak, try to enjoy and explore your life, find what you enjoy...do your favorite hobbies....live while you can, we will all die someday, but we will never know what its like because...well we just don't know....don't over think too much..sometimes its best to just not think about it...because questions like these cant be answered as no one has risen from the dead, unless you wanna like teleport to a book and ask the zombies....from a zombie apocalyptic story.
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There's nothing to fear. Death, pain, something that troubled. All I see was relief. Relief because both of us are alive, both of us are here for a purpose that we should do in what we called by life. Some tips for you that is your choice to follow. Make yourself and your parent proud of what you've done. To achieve that, work harder than your usual days. If you don't have any jobs, get one. If you desperate, shout as loud as you can toward a pillow. Make a bond of family, and get a child, and see him/her progress as you thinking about your past (current) with your family. Let them succeed by themselves, and after you achieve that, your fear of death will no longer there before you knew it for years, because you are fully ready and you will truly realized that death isn't that terrifying as what you feared of. Don't ever listen or watch horror things, just live on your own.