Bullying

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So I’m a sophomore girl and I get bullied. People tell me I’m worthless and stupid and ugly and just everything like that. I’ve been depressed since 8th grade, attempted suicide twice and have cut myself. My friend tells me that I should just try to ignore them. I owe this friend a lot, I love him so much and he’s done everything he possibly can for me except for whatever reason he just wont talk to me in school. So I get where he comes from when he says I should ignore them but that’s not something that I can really do. Plus, the fact he wont talk to me around other people shows me that there’s something wrong with me. For anyone who has been bullied, you know what it’s like. The things they say just repeat in your head. This one kid has told me multiple times that I should just kill myself. These aren’t things that I can just ignore and forget about…what should I do?

asked November 11, 2013

3 Answers

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I can definitely relate to your situation, though I was fortunate enough to not go through it in high school, it was literally hell in middle school. It definitely can and does get to you sometimes, and you can only ignore it for so long before it starts to get to you, and it will. I think one of the best pieces of advice I got was that people are going to push you down to the ground constantly, but it's up to you to either give them the satisfaction of staying there, or getting back up. It's definitely a hard process and it took me a long time to finally realize it but just know that it's not your fault at all. I can't tell you why they are choosing to victimize you, but it's known that bullies only exist so they can mask their own insecurities and place them on other people. So just know that you are the victim and the words that they are saying aren't true at all, and seriously you should consider talking to a counselor because bullying is an issue and it should be eradicated as soon as possible. So please speak to your counselor because people shouldn't be saying things like that to you. But aside from that know that there are so many people who can relate to your situation and have gone through or are going through similar things, so never think you are alone and there's always so many people on the vent/listen chat so when you are feeling down about yourself go on there or talk to someone about it I guarantee that you'll feel so much better about yourself. We all need a pick-me-up sometimes and we all have those bad days, just be proactive about it and address it rather then letting that emotion build up inside of you.
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Unfortunately it's so hard to survive through all the horrible things people say to you at that age. I know everyone says just ignore them and it'll get better and it's so hard to believe it but it is true. I was bullied pretty bad and back when I was in middle and high school not much stock was out into helping out. I ended up changing schools in the eighth grade cuz the bullying got so bad. It's been awhile since I was there and there are times now I can remember what was said and it still stings but it doesn't hurt to the core like it used to. I agree with the first response cuz school have to help out now a days because of all the poor kids that suffered in silence or went to them and nothing changed ... I should know I was one of them. Go to the school include the principal not just a counselor though cuz the principal can help more ... And these kids that are doing this start keeping a record of it so that you can show the counselor and principal and your parents if you have a phone record it that's even better. If this doesn't work consider another school. I know that's a hard decision but when I did it things got better and I found a group of good people that treated me right. In regards to this "friend" I understand that he has been there outside of school but he needs to get his act together and either talk to you in school or you need to call him out. You are a person that is good and kind and he needs to see that and treat you right in and out of school if he chooses to continue not to keep talking to you put your foot down. Once you stand up for yourself you start to feel better it's in small doses and takes time but it does happen and it will get better. If you ever need someone to talk to please feel free to message me anytime.
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Lol, Jealousy, yes its simple as that. Well it may not just be jealousy but its one of the most standing reasons. I'm going to go ahead and assume these "people" that bully you are the , cool kids , the sluts and the douche bags. Yes its wrong of me to categorize them, but this will just make it easier. They are jealous of you because you probably haven't made half the mistakes they have, and they want you to become like them so that they can feel like they made a nice person like you make the same mistakes they did and then feel good about them selves. This is probably one of the more harder to understand responses, but trust me this is a big one. As for how to deal with it, tell the counselor and ignore them. Yes your friend gave you the same advice but think of it like this. The kids who are bullying you are the actual the losers they want you to feel bad because when they see some one vulnerable and nice like you they will do their best to hurt your feelings so they can gain "self respect" and "self worth". Basically pretend everyone that bullies you as a LOW LIFE because that is what they are, and deserve to be. Sorry if this different/confusing, the other two responses above me are pretty common so I thought I should make mine a little in depth.