Breakup; how should I feel?

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So me and my boyfriend broke up 2 weeks ago, alright? And I am REALLY but really tired and sad. I still love him, so does he. It’s a long story, but my question is: how should I feel?
My emotions are “bipolar”. By that, I mean that they always change.. And so does my perspective of things. It goes like this: In the morning, I cry and I want him back even if I know I can’t… And about an hour after, I don’t cry anymore and think I will have him back, that we are still friends and that I’m glad it’s like that blah blah… It’s like that over and over again until the next morning for the same routine. IS THIS NORMAL??

My perspective keeps changing my emotions, I am really tired. How should I feel? I don’t feel like moving on because I still love him and he loves me too, but people tell me to? What to do?
What would you recommend me to do and NOT to do? (not to do, ex; stalk him too much, harass him…)
Thank you!

Category: Tags: asked July 7, 2014

5 Answers

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You love him. The moment you say those three words right there and then you should disregard any other words that any other person tells you. How do you move on from someone you love, especially when you know that they love you too? As far as the bipolar behavior goes, you are definitely normal in fact it is your brain and thought process's natural reaction to the problem being imposed on your life at the moment. On one side you're battling your emotions, "I love him he loves me so what's the problem, I just want him back" on the other side you're battling your logical side, "things happen for a reason, whatever happened is for the best, we're still friends, this is how things should and are going to be." In this type of situation it is important to point out that things are going to end up the way you leave them. If you love him, then tell him tell him how you feel and if he truly loves you then there isn't a single thing in this world that can keep the two of you apart. I guess what I'm trying to say here is, this isn't a test of just your love, its a test of his as well. Take the first step and believe in what you're doing and how you feel. If he puts in the same amount of effort then your problem is solved, and there should be no further confusion. Don't just leave it to logic or emotion, you need to actually use both and act, before things get more complicated than they need to be. Even if things turn sour, you can't say you didn't try! I don't know why the two of you broke up, but if you both still love one another then you shouldn't walk away from each other that easily,true love isn't easy to find, never take it for granted. I hope that helped haha...
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your feeling how you should. i have had men break up with me and me with them i have had a cheater and ive even cheated. through all the love and torment i kept fighting. i know that if you love someone. set them free. if it was meant to be they will return. if not. then its time for some girl time ;) go out. party. and enjoy being single and being able to flirt with whomever you plz.
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I completely understand how you feel. it's barely been two weeks so things are complicated. but events will help you get your emotions and perspective under control. try moving on, hang out with new friends, try new things (avoid drugs and alcohol....well not too much of it HAHA JK!) and start new hobbies (archery, rock climbing, exercise, painting) & see how you feel in a couple months or so. if you still think there's a chance, then see how he feels but if you know it's time to move on, don't dwell on the past anymore and just let go.
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Normal and it will get better. In order for it to get better faster, don't look at his stuff on social media and more importantly, don't try to be friends. It sucks but pays off big time.Also recall that you didn't break up for no reason. And as brutal as it sounds, try and recognize that he's gone and isn't coming back, even if you don't believe that to be true. Holding out for you and him to be back together isn't going to help right now and even if you did get back together eventually, feeling that way now isn't going to make that better.
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You should go ahead with Francesco Carrozzini and forget the other one.

Life's short and you are young, don't over-complicate it.