Battle With Myself, and My Mom

I could honestly tell you, I never though that it would come to this. I want to change custody parents… if that is the correct term. Yet, of course if I do this… there are some consequences that follow along. Example: My sister, considering she is my half-sister, she would not be going with me (for obvious reasons). I am afraid that I won’t be able to see her again, which probably won’t happen but is still a worry. I would just like, if possible, for somebody who can answer my questions to well… answer my questions. I need to know what I am getting into before I do anything drastic. So thank you so much for reading I appreciate it!

1. Will I get to see my sister?
2. Will I get to keep my things?
3. Will the judge actually listen to what I have to say? (I’m fourteen)
4. If I’m to young for the last question, could you give me some ideas to actually get him/her to know that I am serious about what I am doing.
5. Will there be the option of seeing my mother regularly (like regular visits. Christmas, summer, etc.)
6. Would it cost me anything? Like to get the hearing?
7. Do I absolutely need a lawyer?
8. Do I need witnesses?
9. How long would the trial last?
10. What do I need to research to learn more about this whole situation?

ps. don’t get me wrong, I love my mom! She is just extremely unstable in her own addiction. So I find it best for me, considering not only do I feel unsafe in my own ‘home’, she is telling me things that I really don’t need to know. And causing me to feel anxious and depressed.
(Yes I know depression is a serious thing, but I was diagnosed with clinical depression. But that’s another problem for another time)

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pokedork500

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Hello, please don't take my text personal.You're only 14 and you're angry with your mother because she wants the best for you. I do understand that our parents can be overreacting in most situations, but there is nobody that love you more than them. If I were you, I'd quit all these things and get back with my parents as soon as possible. You have time to live on your own. Once you reach 18, you'll become an independant person, thus, you will realise that the life is even harder than you ever imagined. Even if you leave your parents, you will never feel the love for your new ones like the one you felt for your old parents. You're soon to be a teenager, things get messed up this time of your life, but make sure you always do the right choices no matter what. You shouldn't always rely on your parents, though. I really hope you won't do anything stupid. With respect, Alex.

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Alex

With respect, Alex, I could not disagree more. The OP is not angry with her mother. She simply feels unsafe in her own home because of her mother's unstable addiction and needs more support in her anxiety and depression that she is getting at her current home. Pokedork, if you feel this is best for you, then do it. I won't pretend I know anything about your situation. My suggestion would be though, to talk to the parent you want to change custody to and see what they think . Some of your answers will also be able to be answered online most likely. I believe you will get to keep your things, see your sister, and most likely see your mother once in a while. Yes, the judge will absolutely listen to what you have to say. I hope this helped, and if you have any questions or need some support just message me. I'll always be here for you <3 Also, in regards to your anxiety and depression, you can also contact me. I have some great tips for anxiety as I have it myself and my best friend has depression and she also has some great advice. Good luck!

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Alexis

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