I’ve been debating this for a while now and I need some insight on the matter. So up until the 7th or 8th grade, I thought I only liked men but then I started feeling an attraction towards women. So at first I labelled myself as straight, then bisexual, then pansexual after I started talking to some of my LGBTQ+ friends, But now, I have no idea what I am. I’m starting to think that I don’t want to label myself as anything. Should I say that I’m a blend of poly, pan, and bi? Is there a name for that? How do I go about telling people what my sexuality is if I hate that labels that I feel restrain me? I just don’t feel completely comfortable with labeling myself anymore.
It's okay to abandon labels! You don't have to identify with anything in particular. If you feel restrained by labels, it's fine to ditch them. Some people feel comfortable with them because it gives them a sense of identity, and that's great. Some people feel trapped by them, and that's okay, too. You don't necessarily require them to be yourself. Go ahead and stop labeling yourself, and allow yourself to feel comfortable in your mind and in your skin. Just try not to start judging anyone for choosing to use labels. You'll be fine! (^owo^=)~
Labels exist to give people a sense of what they are, but anyone can choose whether to use them or not and if you feel like they restrain you more than identify you, then you can choose to ignore them. Sexuality is fluid in most people, which means it can change throughout your entire life, so it's fine if you feel these changes. I already labeled myself as other things before coming to the conclusion I'm a demisexual, and I like the label because it makes me feel like I belong and like there's people like me. But if labels don't give you that feeling, you don't have to stick with them, you're not obligated to state your sexuality to people, the important thing is that you feel comfortable with yourself
Well, you don't have to tell them about your sexuality. If you are single you are single, if you are in a relationship with/seeing someone, you can say that. That said, some people like the umbrella term 'queer' for themselves, although if you put yourself in the position to having to explain it in detail, yeah, it doesn't have the shortcut value of a more specific label.
A label is a word for people to identify you and give you a classification to organize you into a category. I personally don't see a label as anything you need to adopt in the first place. Be you. Be a good person. Don't worry about fitting into someone else's highly classified and organized world. If someone wants to know who you are tell them you're a good person. Your sexuality only matters between you and your direct partner. And anyone who wants to be with you won't care what label you pick.
I just think you should focus on finding yourself, on doing what you fee is right for YOU, and just forget about the labels. Labels are restrictive, and to someone such as yourself, who is curious about their sexuality, they aren't going to do much good! Good luck!
Labels are for people who feel them necessary or descriptive. I identify as bisexual, but I know that a label can't define who I am, and my love shall not discriminate on the basis of gender. If you know who you are, are labels necessary? If you can say "I don't need a label to define my sexuality." then you are good to go. There will always be someone who understands.