About four years ago, I met this guy at work who is, in basically every respect, my perfect guy. We ended up dating and getting into a relationship for a few months, and it was amazing. He was the one person that I was comfortable talking to about literally anything. While we were together, everything was really, really good.
Unfortunately, I moved away for college. We had only been together a few months, and neither of us were really enthusiastic about a long-distance relationship, so we broke up when I moved. We talked a little about getting together whenever I was home from school, but I knew that would be really hard for me and he said that it would be too hard to have a non-emotional relationship like that.
So we didn’t talk for four or five months. Then, just before I would be coming home for Christmas holidays, he messaged me, asking when I’d be home, how I was doing, if I liked my program, and finally, if I wanted to see him when I was back. Of course I did, and we had dinner, caught up, blah blah blah, and we’ve more or less been in contact ever since.
I finished my year at school and, after realizing that it wasn’t really what I was interested in, I’m transferring to the college in my hometown, where he also goes to school. I’ve been back at home for months, and I thought, with us talking again and all, that we would have possibly gotten back together. We’ve hung out a few times, but nothing like a date or anything. I can’t tell how he feels about me anymore. He’ll suggest going out for dinner, or seeing a movie, but when we do it doesn’t exactly seem like a date because I have no idea where we stand. He’ll talk to me like he used to, flirting and all, but there just hasn’t been that final step yet.
Have I maybe seemed like I’m not interested? Or is he only interested in being friends? Should I just tell him outright that I still have feelings for him? Or should I just try to get over him completely? Any insight would be helpful!
