This is about to be a bit long but hopefully interesting for you and productive for me
I`m usually in the position of a listener so this is a bit difficult for me to explain. My friends and family often come to me for advice. A friend of mine recently had some personal dealings with a psychopathic boss which caused me to dig in a bit on the matter.
So here`s the deal. I read a couple of books -Robert Hare , Martha Stout etc. and I did NOT relate to anything to the problems described. During my “research” i came across an online psychopathy test- I took it and it scored me in the top 98%. Then i find a couple more and the results were similar. When I really thought about it I can`t recall feeling guilt – ever. Also if a definition a conscience is a “sense of obligation ultimately based in an emotional attachment to others ” I guess I don`t experience that either.
Having found this it deeply bothers me. Mainly because it sharply contradicts to the way I view myself.
I suppose I should add a little something about me and what I think of myself:
I`m an introvert and a bit of a loner, I am confident and I fell comfortable in my own skin, I like reading scientific stuff and I enjoy having philosophical debates; I believe that the purpose of life is improving yourself;I believe that the world would be a better place if people helped each other more; I believe in my ability to change the circumstances that I live in. I`m rational ,calm and in control of my emotions or even physical pain. I like to observe other people, and I like conducting experiments on them (some of which go on for years), people have being telling me that they find my presence intimidating and even chilling sometimes and at other I can be enticing. That they cant`t tell when I lie and I guess I can be manipulative (I feel manipulating people is easier than it should be) .I`m impulsive, I like adrenaline, I don`t tolerate being control or being told what to do, I live by my own rules .
BUT I am an honest person , I do NOT abuse others neither emotionally nor physically, I don`t spend my time playing control games ,moreover I don`t view people as tools. I often get out of my way to help others and I put effort into being nice. People close to me consider me wise and seek help and advice from me, I usually take charge when things get tough or when work needs to be done.
So, what I ask for here is your opinion or a suggestion on the matter.Could I be completely oblivious to been a psychopath? I really don`t think psychopathy or sociopathy fit me. I also seriously considered narcissism and borderline personality disorder but they don`t seem to fit me either ( I appreciate constructive criticism , I have little to no need for attention or approval , no mood swings…). Any ideas as to what can be behind this?
Thank you for taking the time of the day to read this, I appreciate every answer.