Am I feeling this correctly?

So my gf of 4 years constantly accuses and blames me for everything wrong. She accuses me of hiding things on my phone even when I’m using my phone next to her in plain sight, she accuses me of looking at other girls when in all honesty I’m not even doing such a thing. She’ll accuse me of something and just corner me and blame me and no matter what I do to defend myself she won’t ease up. Then I lose my cool and get angry and then I’m the fucked up one because I’m angry and cussing etc. She blames the demise of our relationship because of my anger yet she provokes me to the point where I can’t take it anymore. She doesn’t ever admit to any wrong doing to me but preaches Bible verses saying I’m the devil. I honestly feel like I’m being treated like shit and she just doesn’t give a fuck. If I try to leave the relationship she thinks I met someone else or I’m fucking someone else. I never cheated on her but we broke up 3 years ago and 3 months after we broke up I met someone else. She finds out and then automatically calls me a cheater yet she is talking to someone new also. Shit is fucken out of hand and I have no idea on how to fix this. Someone shine some light please.

Category: Dating & Relationships asked March 8, 2014

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Romy

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When couples are together for a really long time they start to show less affection, this is normal but in some cases things get a little more extreme, like with you. I suggest you ask her for a serious conversation, tell her evrything that's on your mind. Start the conversation with : when i talk you don't interrupt me, i'm speaking the most honest words. After this, hear her side of the story, then try to figure your situation out. Mabe something is bothering her, mabe she's having some kind of crisis in her life and she doesn't know what to do. It is important that you two talk and listen to eachother. If the conversation doesn't work, or if this keeps repeating itself, you two are just not made for eachother.

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Sweetanonym

Okay, so you mean you broke up with her 3 years ago? I don't really understand what you need help with unfortunately. If you two are still together and she is doing these things, it's best to just end things and avoid each other for a while at least. If you're already separated and she still blames you, I think it's best to end contact with her. Things seem really messy and you shouldn't let it go on. Just avoid her and let things get better. She met someone right? So just wait until both of you are done and calmed down. She'll hopefully stop blaming you. Goodluck!

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Strawberry

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I agree with @lolzyloly . You need to express yourself. Tell her how you feel. A relationship should be built on respect, which she obviously lacks. Try to make her understand that this behaviour is unacceptable. If it doesn't work, you might consider other options (take a break etc.). Try to remain calm and don't lose your temper to avoid giving her more reasons to maltreat you. I wish you the best.

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Miriam

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