Am I being selfish

I’ve been suffering from depression for a number of years, and it’s finally taking a turn for the worse. I lost both of my jobs recently due to being laid off and having to resign from one. I can no longer afford my rent, and I luckily have a supportive family offering me to let me move back home so I can try and get help and get better.
One problem I’m struggling with is my boyfriend. He doesn’t understand no matter how I explain to him what I’ve been dealing with. He thinks I just need to get a job and it’ll all be better. He guilt trips me when I lay in bed all day, but he still says he cares about me and is still trying to help.
I haven’t told him yet I need to move. I know I need to be happy, and I think it would be best if we weren’t together in order to get better. Am I thinking about myself too much?

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powerk

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In your situation it's perfectly understandable to think about yourself. You should always put your own well being first. That's your most important priority. However, I also understand that your boyfriend doesn't understand it. He isn't the one going through all of this and he doesn't know what it's like. He probably thinks that easy things like that would fix it, while they obviously won't fix it. You can't blame him for not being more supportive when he's not able to relate to what you're going through. I do think that it might be better for you if you let this relationship go. He's not making things better for you and even if he wanted to, he can't. I'm just trying to look at both sides. If you feel that it would be better to let him go, then that's the choice you should make.

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Rain

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Prioritising your wellbeing and yourself is never wrong. You're choosing recovery and moving back home with your family is a viable path towards bettering your health as you said. You recognise that it might be best if you weren't together for this (not sure if you mean take a break or break up) and though that may not be received well by your boyfriend hopefully he is understanding enough to see that you are doing what is best for you and your wellbeing even if if he isn't aware too aware of what you're going through.

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Simon

well I think he fell so stress because he really want to help you, that's is why he just pull, that is what I think but only you know the truth in other place, you aren't selfish I think that you need to do what ever you do to feel good and if you really need to go back to your home with your family then do it, you are lucky because you have the support of your family

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rossy elizabeth estrada díaz

As a person who has suffer enough from depression I can say that recovery is never easy. Being selfish in the meantime is a thin red line. I believe you are doing a nice thing with questioning this. About your boyfriend who doesn't get the whole sitation, my father was thinking the same way. Be honest about every feeling you have and tell him more. Dreams, thoughts and everything else you may mention. My father now gets me like everyone should. I believe you can manage to do so. Good luck.

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Smarty Pants