I’ve been alone for almost 22 years now. Trust me its not the best feeling in the world. It Is such a suffocating and crippling feeling. I hate it. I feel like it would have helped me so much throughout life if I had someone there with me. I know that it would have comforted me and gave me some peace. I am at the worst part of my life so far. I am just psychologically suffering. And being with some definitely makes things a lot better and easier. I’ve come to the realization that it will never happen for me. All my life iv always wanted a relationship but all I ever got is just fucking around for a bit then that’s it. I’ve given up on a relationship, but I just want to honestly know why from as many girls as possible. That is what led me here. I cant ask someone I know but I can ask someone iv never met.
I’ve never in my life had one, its sad. I’ve only fucked around that’s it. Its weird you’d think the girl would want the relationship and the guy would be happy with just sex.
I would talk on the phone for a bit then we’d see each other 1-3 times. Then that’s it. We might have sex those 1-3 times but that’s it. And this is once in a blue, but no girl wants me or has ever wanted me. And honestly not to sound like an ass and I know people are trying to help and I very much appreciate them doing that, but I am tired of hearing that ill meet someone some day. If it was going to happen, i would have at least been in one relationship with in 22 years, don’t you think? For some reason, to put it bluntly, I’m undesirable. No one has ever cared for me and I’m not just talking about a girl. I am talking about all girls. Even ones I know, whom I consider friends. Even guy friends. I feel like I have the shittiest support cast in my life. I never could understand why. I swear to all who read this, I’m not just saying this to you. I swear I’m not a liar. Remember, I just told you how people don’t like me and girls wont date me. So I think we can say I’m an honest man. Who would like to admit those things. I swear I’m the nicest guy in the world. I am not just nice to friends, but strangers and as well as everyone I come across. Even people who did me wrong. I’m nice to everyone. I’m full of compassion. I’m very honest and loyal. I’m very open minded even though my family isn’t and I was raised in a house that was not open minded and all my siblings turned out that way, but I didn’t. I was able to break away from tradition. Also, I’m not saying I’m Ian Somerhalder, I’m not drop dead sexy at all, but I’m a fairly good looking guy. I know I’m not ugly. And I never show anyone this side of me, so I know some of you are going to say it’s a confidence thing. Its not, I’m pretty confident and down to earth when I am around women. It is something much deeper than that. I hate to believe that its just looks and I’m simply not good looking enough for women. I’d hate to believe women are that shallow in 2014. Basically, all I’m good at is having a really good genuine heart. However, women don’t seem to value these things in me at least.
Despite all this, every girl ever in my life has rejected me without ever giving me a chance. People always distance themselves for me. No one ever calls me. No one ever calls to hang out. I’m either at work or home alone. No one has ever done a nice gesture for me. I don’t know what it feels like to have someone care for me and it is the worst feeling in the world. I’ve never got a birthday gift from anyone.
No one has ever called me or texted me to say happy birthday. Even though, I always text and call everyone else and get them gifts. I’ve never got a party or anything like that. Even though I’ve thrown other people parties. I never went out for my birthday because friends never told me, “hey lets go out this weekend and celebrate your birthday”.
Let me give you examples. When I was 12 I started working with my father so I had money. I bought my cousin a 150 necklace, since then, she has never called me to say happy birthday or anything. I am a muay thai fighter. My trainer a few years ago, I got him a 150 gift and he didn’t’ even say thank you. He claimed that he didn’t know it was from me so my birthday passes and I’m expecting a phone call from him. He calls me and asks what am I doing. I was home doing nothing. He asked if I could hit the sauna with him because he was getting ready for his fight that weekend and fighters use the sauna to cut weight for a fight. I went because I know what it feels like to be in there alone and it sucks. I went and spent the day in the sauna on my birthday and I was expecting at least a happy birthday. He says nothing. And after all this I still went to his fight, which all together costs 100 dollars when you account for everything. I did all this because I wanted to support my trainer. At a time I really needed the money. So that following Monday after class, he told us all to wait and at that exact moment I’m telling myself well he had a big fight the same week as my birthday so he had a lot on his mind, its okay that he didn’t even wish me a happy birthday. Right after I thought that he came out with a big ass cake for my friend. His birthday was a few days after mine. Who didn’t ever get my trainer anything for his birthday or ever for that matter. I felt like shit that was the most hurtful thing anyone had ever done to me. I felt like shit even after that he went to Thailand and brought all the fighters custom shorts except me. Then another case right after my birthday he went over seas and came back and gave all my friends gifts right in front of me and got me nothing. How can someone be this cold? I don’t understand. The reason I brought this up is because this is god honest how I’ve been treated throughout my entire life by everyone; more notably, all of the women. This was just an example I could think of right now. This shit is honestly so freaking hurtful and im reaching my breaking point. A girlfriend in my life would make things so much easier for me because they provide peace and comfort, which a lot of guys do see or understand. They don’t appreciate it like I do, which is why a lot of them cheat.
Imagine being treated like this from everyone your whole life
it takes its psychological toll on you. Never has anyone ever came to support me. Girls are the same, they all treat me probably worse. They all just close their hearts to me, but open it to the next guy. They just have no interest in me at all, but have all the interest in the world for the next guy. And I never could comprehend why? Someone please explain it to me. I can see if I was an asshole, but I’m honestly the nicest guy in the world, I’m not awkward, I’m a normal guy I know how to act and talk around them. I feel like I’m cursed. I’m starting to honestly believe that now.
I want to know every girl who reads this’s honest opinion about all this and something else. And please be honest.
If you saw me I’m sure you’d say no to me as well, but why? I want to know why? Tell me please and be honest. I can email you pictures of me. If that makes you uncomfortable maybe I can email an old account you no longer use. Or just log onto one of mine and my pictures will be on there.
Or look at my facebook, but please I need this question honestly answered or I feel like ill be depressed for ever.