My boyfriend is constantly threatening to break up whenever we have a fight…usually the fight is because I try to explain how I feel about a certain situation and he turns it into a huge. He verbally abuses me on a daily basis, and when we fight, he tries to leave and pushes or drags me out of the way and threatens to actually hit me (never has though)
Every time we have a fight, it’s “my fault” and I have to “get better” and leave him alone, and let him play video games and hang out with people whenever he wants and only get attention when he wants to…If I even mention doing something that I want to do, like go swimming, or go shopping, etc. it turns into a huge fight…(unless of course he wants to) I try to explain to him it’s not a one way street…and I promised to get better…not to obey him…
Well, about 30 mins ago we had a fight about getting a cat (note: I have been trying to convince him to get a cat since we moved into our new place 6 months ago, since he went ahead and got a dog when I said I did not want one.) and so last month he said I could (as long as I kept the house clean…like he is my father or something)…I would like to point out I have had a million chances to get a cat, but he wouldn’t let me….today I was supposed to meet up with someone to get a kitten but they failed to answer 4 times…So I told him that if he would have just let me get a cat before…I wouldn’t be in this situation…
It started this huge fight and he started calling me names, and he pushed me, so I yelled “how do you like being pushed” and pushed him because I was fuckin tired of him putting his hands on me. He then proceeded to throw me around the room, and push me against walls and drag me across the floor and throw stuff at me…he twisted my arm around my back…and kicked my leg…
I don’t know what to do…I just am so sick of the abuse (verbally and physically) and I am sick of getting attention when he wants attention and only doing things he wants to do to avoid a unnecessary fight…
He is at work now, I don’t know what to do.
I love him with all of my heart…I really do…