Sometimes people are overwhelmed and don't want to listen, that is true. I personally always talk to my venter until we have completed the conversation and often started down a different track. I'm willing to bet that most if not all of those 5 people that disconnected were just confused, thinking that you had left, and that is why they moved on to a different chat. See, in this new chat format, whenever you disconnect and it doesn't redirect you right away, the text on the screen says "your partner has disconnected" instead of "you have disconnected" leaving them to think that you left. Probably a misunderstanding on their part. It may also be that some of them did just not want to continue the conversation, or they had to leave. In that case I still think that they would have informed you that they were leaving, possibly even making up an excuse, but still. As I said before, it was likely a misunderstanding. And you're right, the "missed connections" doesn't work terribly well, in fact, it only works I think if they remember their chat name and yours and they respond. I could be wrong, I've only used it once, but that's how it seemed to work for me.
I hope that was helpful, and I am sorry that you're having trouble with the chat. If your listeners keep disconnecting, feel free to message me if you like, I'd be glad to listen and help in any way I can.=)