20 year old virgin, is that bad?

It doesn't make a difference that you're a girl.

I read a book written by a psychologist, called "Not Just Friends."
The psychologist's name was Shirley Glass. She specialized in marital therapy.

Shirley Glass said that people who lose their virginity at a later age tend to be more selective, when choosing their partners.

In other words, they're more picky.

And because of this, they are actually more likely to end up with a partner who they will be happy with, in the long run.

So the answer to your question is....no. No it's not a bad thing.
For losing your virginity after adolescence, you are that much more likely to end up in a relationship that will bring you long term happiness.

NO NO NO. its not bad. wait until someone comes around that you really care for. so cliche but true!

NO! of course not! :)

I read recently that "virgin" used to mean a strong young woman - no sexual connotation attached. I much prefer that definition.That said, there are a lot of pressures around whether or not one is having sex in modern societies. The best advice I've heard is that if you -want- to be having sex with other people, go ahead and look for (a) consenting partner(s) and have some, regardless of how you're -supposed- to act. If you don't want to have sex with other people (or don't want to -yet-), don't have it, regardless of what labels other people might try to use on you. If you aren't sure, take some time to figure it out.And if you're really worried about how future partners will feel about a lack of inexperience, I wouldn't be (or at least, -try- not to worry). For every person who wants a partner with tons of experience, there's someone who gets a kick out of being with someone without much (or any) experience. If a potential long-term partner is really into -you-, they shouldn't care that much either way.

Not bad at all! If anything, it makes it all the more special for the right guy...but make sure he's absolutely right because some guys are into "breaking" virgins just for sport. I would not reveal your virginity until you know someone really well.

It isn't at all bad! Wait for someone you feel comfortable enough with to go through with it, someone you can connect with. It will be totally worth the wait, plus the older you are, the better because you fully understand and are aware enough to only go through with it if your ready instead of giving in to pressure.

Haha, not at all. I understand this completely, believe me. I know too many people who slept with someone and it ended up being the wrong person. Or they got pregnant, or something. Honestly... I know this sounds really cliche, but it's good to wait. It's a safe decision, and even if you decide to have sex, then that's your choice. I'm very iffy on the whole "having sex before marriage" thing, even though I'm gay. It's perfectly fine, and people respect your decision, dear. But there's always fanfiction if you get lonely. :D

No this is not bad at all. I'm also a girl, 20 and a virgin. There's nothing wrong with it. Im not holding out for marriage or anything i just haven't d someone I wanted to be with that way. That doesn't make it wrong.

I actually think it AWESOME that you have waited. I am a male that chose to wait for the right girl, she came when I was 24. As corny as it may sound it was the best thing I have ever done. I am now married to my 1st with 2 beautiful children. We have been married for 9 years and I honestly love her more now then I ever did.

No!!! It's definitely not a bad thing. I'm also 20 years old and a virgin and I use to think it was horrible but honestly it makes me proud being one. Just imagine, me and you can still say we have it. It' a precious thing to have and to give it away is a big deal. Most people nowadays will sleep with whoever and give it up to anyone and were waiting for "the one" or someone extrememly special. Be proud that you are still a virgin!

Of course it's not a bad thing! It also makes zero difference if you are male or female. That is just society talking. Either you are waiting for the right person, or it never came up it's 100% fine, it is all about whether you are ready for sex and all that comes with. I am nearly 20 myself and also a virgin. *love

One of my classmate didn't even have her first kiss till she was 25 and she married the guy :'] Everybody thought it was the cutest thing ever! So no it's not weird!

Nope, nothing wrong with it! Sex isn't something to rush into, I wish I'd had waited for the right person. :)

Nothing wrong with it! Just ignore all of society's messages telling us we have to have lots of sex, right now, or we have no value as a human being. As it is, we are seeing a rise in middle schoolers and even younger kids losing their virginities!!! WTF! Anyways, I know plenty of folks who are actually dating, not super religious, and still virgins. And they are in their early to mid 20s. When you have sex is your decision, and screw (not literally) anyone else who says otherwise. :)