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    Theodore posted an update 6 years ago

    I feel really content where I’m at socially right now for the first time at college… I like somebody and I’m quite sure he likes me too, but he’s part of this group of people I’ve gotten to know and I don’t want to mess up everything. I never had the same groups of friends in high school, I’d just move through them when I dated someone different… I had a bit of a security blanket problem with dating before, but I’m fine now. I feel like I’d ruin everything and all the friendships I’ve made if we started dating now and it fell through. I feel like I go through people like a storm sometimes. I’ve been really happy this last week but at the same time, I am feeling really confused and a bit clueless because I don’t know what to think. Socially right now I’m content and secure, but I really want to be something more with this person, and I think some of my same worries might be going through his head, too, which is why I get mixed signals sometimes. My heart says yes but my head says no. I’d want to take it slow and just be friends first regardless, but little flirtations slip in no matter what. I think he’s trying to hold back but I see it, because I’m doing the same thing.. Not really sure what the best thing to do is. I’m going to be out of country come spring, then there’s Summer, so I can’t just let it drag out for forever or there’ll be a big time gap and we both might lose interest.. I want to ask my friend who is part of this group but I’m afraid of what she might say, I literally have no idea whatsoever what she would say. Not a clue. I feel like I should stay away from dating altogether in that situation, but I think we’d be a brilliant match. We’re really similar and complimentary in a lot of ways, and have overlapping interests and values. I really admire him, but I feel so lost.

    Mood : Confused
    • Oli replied 6 years ago

      I would try to talk and bond with him as much as you can @princepossum, build up your relationship with each other and see where things go Theodore, hopefully you will always be friends no matter what happens, do what you feel benefits you going forward and never give up, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)