I hear you, @whiteflower. Perhaps they’ve got used to your compassionate nature, and forgot that sometimes you need it too. Wanting to help people is always good thing, but sometimes you need to be a bit selfish as well and help yourself. But it’s a role we’ve accepted, to be there for someone else and put their well-being first for a little while, especially here on blah.
You deserve to help and to be helped in return @whiteflower, keep being that compassionate and sweet person that you are, remember that people do care about you and want to see you happy, I’m always here if you need someone to talk too or if you need to open up to someone, message me anytime if you want, my inbox is always open, stay strong, you are never alone (hugs)
So stop, if you help people with the hope that they will return the favor then that is not selfless help that is work that you expect payment for. So if you are not getting that payment, stop helping them. You aren’t obligated too anyway. But if you are helping people because you truly care to help them, stop expecting them to help you back. I’m not saying this to be mean, so please don’t take it that way. It is just that the folks in history who are remembered the most for their good works, didn’t do them for recognition, they did them because they felt they were the right thing to do. So you needing help should be a separate thing from the good that you have done, don’t make one be associated with the other.
I don’t. Believe it or not, I don’t try to freaking make it about myself or anything. Any moment I could turn things to be all about myself. But I don’t. I keep that from happening. I have asked people before if they actually wanted to listen to what was wrong. When they say no, I don’t bother them anymore. I don’t expect help. Because I know nobody would ever want to give me any. I don’t want any freaking ’payment’ or anything. I just think it would be nice if just one person cared about me enough to know something is wrong. Believe it or not, I do this because I genuinely care about people. Because I really do want to help them. Sorry if that sounded rude or anything, I just had to get it off my chest.
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I hear you, @whiteflower. Perhaps they’ve got used to your compassionate nature, and forgot that sometimes you need it too. Wanting to help people is always good thing, but sometimes you need to be a bit selfish as well and help yourself. But it’s a role we’ve accepted, to be there for someone else and put their well-being first for a little while, especially here on blah.
How are you doing on this Tuesday?
You deserve to help and to be helped in return @whiteflower, keep being that compassionate and sweet person that you are, remember that people do care about you and want to see you happy, I’m always here if you need someone to talk too or if you need to open up to someone, message me anytime if you want, my inbox is always open, stay strong, you are never alone
(hugs)
So stop, if you help people with the hope that they will return the favor then that is not selfless help that is work that you expect payment for. So if you are not getting that payment, stop helping them. You aren’t obligated too anyway. But if you are helping people because you truly care to help them, stop expecting them to help you back. I’m not saying this to be mean, so please don’t take it that way. It is just that the folks in history who are remembered the most for their good works, didn’t do them for recognition, they did them because they felt they were the right thing to do. So you needing help should be a separate thing from the good that you have done, don’t make one be associated with the other.
I don’t. Believe it or not, I don’t try to freaking make it about myself or anything. Any moment I could turn things to be all about myself. But I don’t. I keep that from happening. I have asked people before if they actually wanted to listen to what was wrong. When they say no, I don’t bother them anymore. I don’t expect help. Because I know nobody would ever want to give me any. I don’t want any freaking ’payment’ or anything. I just think it would be nice if just one person cared about me enough to know something is wrong. Believe it or not, I do this because I genuinely care about people. Because I really do want to help them. Sorry if that sounded rude or anything, I just had to get it off my chest.