Cherah said 8 years, 6 months ago:

I have been with my other half for 4 years, now. I am the happiest I have ever been. I love him with all my heart. But 2 years ago we had an incident. He had been drinking, a little… Way… Too much. We got into an argument, and it became physical. He held me down on the bed and started choking me. I was so shocked, I was paralyzed. I am not one to allow myself to be beaten. I was raised to know how to handle myself and hold my own in a fight. But that night, I just couldn’t fight back against him. He started to almost torture me. Squeezing my throat til I thought my head was going to pop off, then releasing long enough for me to get some air. Then he’d squeeze again. He released one time a little too long and I was able to get out a small scream. Thankfully my brothers heard me and came running. He went to jail that night, and spent a month. I have obviously forgiven him, and he has never laid a hand on me to hurt me again. He quit drinking and got help. But I still have nightmares at night. I can’t tell him any of this. It would hurt him horribly. How do I handle this and get over the nightmares? Someone please help.

Cass said 8 years, 6 months ago:

I agree, you should seek professional help. Yes, its something that he did once and hes never done it again but its still stuck with you. I also think you should talk to him about it to get closure.