Why Is he like this to me

My ex phoned me yesterday with a bunch of his friends and started giving me abuse, that I’m rubbish in bed, my vaginas wide I’m a prostitute , I’m ugly and just complete nastiness I sat and listened to them abuse me asking why he was doing this and his female friend just said because it’s funnyand when I hung the phone up I burst out crying. I had my number changed yesterday afternoon I feel helpless and no one to talk to about it don’t have any friends at all. just wanted him to leave me alone, he dumped me and was telling these people and goading them to say I was rubbish in bed couldn’t make him cum just things like that. This stuff being happening for 18 months on and off, I’m so depressed that I don’t leave the house anymore. I’m scared to now feel useless and no point in even dating if I can’t even satisfy anyone. I must be a bad person to deserve it.
I find it hard to talk to people because I can’t describe how I’m feeling and people just brush aside that it can’t be important
I’m depressed and sometimes feel life is not worth carrying on anymore I sit myself for hours planning my death and funeral in my head most of the time because even if I’ve blocked him from contacting me it doesn’t block the things he’s said or done to me. He’s telling everyone everything and how I’m a pyscho and crazy but I’ve never put anyone down or be cruel to them.
why is it fun to cause someone’s life a misery and make them wish they were dead?

Category: Abuse asked November 18, 2014

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Brokenhearted81

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That is a very difficult situation, but its really good that you changed your number no one needs that kind of interaction in their life. First, you ex is most certainly an abuser and nothing an abuser does is normal or sane, what he has to say is hateful trash targeted at you to tear you down and doesn't biases in reality. It is most likely completely untrue in every way and hard as it maybe, it shouldn't ever be even considered as reality.
His focus on targeting your sex life might even speak of his own insecurities about his own bedroom performance. The best action to take is completely and utterly separate yourself from him and any environment involving him. This can be difficult if you both live in the same area or function in the same circles but it necessary to prevent further harassment.
Anything he has said is crudolla and you should try and ignore it, that being said, ignoring it maybe the most difficult part, for me letting go or forgetting what people say to me has always been a struggle, I spent a year in my house refusing to answer the phone or leave but after a long process and completely changing my environment I've regain some control of my life and can even drive. Do you have a relative you could call for comfort? Maybe try facing yourself in the mirror and telling yourself about how wonderful you really are? or keeping a journal of at least five good things from everyday to encourage you?

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Eve

Don't listen to what he says. That kind of person doesn't deserve you even thinking about him or his words. He's just a big jerk, and what he said about you after your brakeup says more about him than you. Those are private things and calling you and putting you down is just mean. You didn't do anything wrong. Your sex wasn't great, so what, sometimes people just don't click, don't give up and put yourself down becouse of that. There were two people involved, it's not your fault. Give life a chance, don't isolate and close yourself, maybe it will be great with the next guy. Life is full of wonderfull things! sometimes we lose ourselfs in a bad thing and forget that, but that doesnt mean those great things aren't out there, you just have to look for them. when you let other people in and let them get to know you, they will realise who the bad guy here is, and for those who continue with the bullying, you don't need them in your life. just remember how unhappy they must be to put somebody down to make themselves feel better, pathetic. cut all the negativity. I know it's hard right now, but you just have to push trough it, and in a month everyone will forget about it. society is cruel, us people, we can be such monsters, but don't let mean people push you away from living your life. Just remember you are amazing! and they can all go fuck themselves!!! :D

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tl.korra123

he's probably just angry with himself now thatb you two aren't together. Please don't heed what he says, you're not anything he's said. Look in the mirror, and tell yourself you're beautiful

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BlackPegasus

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