So my boyfriend..

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We hardly ever really talk anymore, is it because it’s a new year and we only talk at lunch and the end of the day?
I honestly dont know and need some advice..

Category: Tags: asked September 17, 2013

6 Answers

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I would say that maybe the 'honeymoon period' of the relationship is ending and you are just entering the transition. What I mean by the 'honeymoon period' is you know the need to constantly text, say 'I love you' and all of that other good stuff. After a while you move from a romantic love to more of a companionship love. This doesn't mean it's bad or anything, if you still have a good relationship with him, this point is bound to happen in any healthy relationship. But if you feel like you hardly ever get to talk to him, just approach him about it. Maybe you need to go on some more dates or something. But just don't think that because he isn't talking to you as much as he did before that he loves you any less, he could just be trying to assimilate back into school life and honestly it's so much healthier if you both have social lives and own friend groups besides each other. But if you are having any reservations definitely talk to him about it, I remember this happened to me a while ago with my boyfriend, and I'm not a really romantic type so I just told him hey sometimes I just don't feel the need to talk to you, it's not because I don't care about you or anything I just need a few days to myself sometimes. And we compromised from there, so just talk to him about it, where he sees the relationship going and make compromises if you need to. I wish you all the best!
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Saying "it's a new year" implies you are in school. Relationships during this time of your life, although they sometimes can last or a very long time, are usually just for fun. The most important thing is to keep studying and focus on the academic part of your life. But you should definitely have a conversation with him. Don't be rash, just tell him that you understand if he is too busy to be in a relationship, but if he is, he needs to le you know. If it is meant to be, it will happen. It seems you already have a feeling that the relationship isn't wrking... go with your gut.
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I think you should talk to him, tell him how you feel about it! He's not a mind reader, to him maybe his actions are normal! If you straight out tell him your feelings towards the situation, his attitude could totally change. Hope ya feel better! Message/add me if you need! xoxo
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How old are both of you? And one major issue that causes relationships to break up is over-thinking, but as said above. Communication is key, so better then some friends advice is what he tells you straight forward.
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You can't know until you talk to him. Ask him exactly what you asked us - Is something wrong, or are we just not talking much because of the new school year?
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If he's your boyfriend, and he's not talking to you, that's a problem. So, like everybody's said, just go up and approach. He might just be going through something, or maybe he's nervous about a new year... or, sadly, this may be the time to separate.Just remember, whatever happens, talk it out before, during, and after! Before, with yourself, so you know what to say and what to think. During, because you always, always, give people a chance to speak. And after, to relieve yourself and let the emotions settle.