Ive been dating a 17 yr old guy whom I love very much, and it used to be obvious to me how much he loved me too. (I’m 27) Now things are different, he hardly texts me anymore (but when he does he says i love u or sends an x) He is vague and secretive sometimes, often chatting on his phone all day, then tells me hes going out drinking with mates at the last minute, never invites me anywhere and wonders why i get sad.
It doesnt help the fact that when we first got together it was a no strings attached thing, then he started seeing someone else and cheated on her to sleep with me (he did leave her a week later, but that thought is always in the back of my mind) Now things are getting uncomfortable between us, I feel like a discarded sex toy to be only picked up when he has needs. At night he rubs himself on me disrupting my sleep and pretty much annoying me. Its not a turn on at all. When he does want sex its very one sided and his needs are only tended to, never mine.
i love him so much but its hurting too much, I want to stay but want to leave for my own emotional security, I have tried discussing my fears and needs but he doesn’t seem to understand. Can anybody suggest a way for me to approach this with him again or should I just give up before everybody gets too hurt. It will honestly kill me emotionally, but these circumstances are doing the same thing, just slowly. Im so confused any advice would be great, pls
