My girlfriend wants to sleep with other guys

Hi everyone, my girlfriend used to be an escort till she got pregnant and stopped.The father of the baby refused responsibility saying he is sure the baby belongs to another client. Anyways I met her after that when she had given birth and the baby was about 7months.Now the baby is 3years old.I love him so much.You can’t help but love him, he’s so adorable. Now she says she misses the escort life and wants to go back for the fun of it. But doesn’t want to lose me. She wants to have threesome, sleep with a total stranger and have one night stand. Have sex in a bar, public sex group sex, name it.I cannot do all these and do she keeps fantasizing about it.And asks me if she could go experience it once again before we get married. She says she won’t do it if I’m not ok with it. But you need to see her excitement at the thought of it, when she’s making a cartoto convince me. I’m tempted to allow her cos I seem to be standing in her way of joy, and I feel it’s a matter of time before she does it behind me.But I know I will not see her the same way afterwards. I love her so much and don’t want to lose her. I need clarity

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Timi

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Stay with her if you really want, but do not marry. I do not think this would work as a marriage long term because obviously she has a different concept of a relationship than you.

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Sameer

Personally, I don't think it's a good idea if she does it. She wants to do those things one last time and just "for the fun of it", but why? If she has you, I'm honestly surprised a person could even think about having a sexual act with somebody else. If it's something involving you, her, and someone else, yes, that would make a bit more sense. But like you said, if you let her do it, you know you won't see her the same way afterwards. You also said that she won't do it if you're not okay with it, and you don't exactly seem okay with it. Telling her the truth is what you should do; give your opinion. If you don't want her to do anything, she sounds caring enough about how you feel to accept that. :)

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Hayden

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if you dont think it will damage your relationship than go for it. obviously she enjoyed being an escort and misses the sexy fun and everything. if youre not comfortable with other people joining in maybe try spicing up sex just the two of you or pretend that youre strangers and meet up in a bar one night. try using toys or if youre going out to dinner one night have her use a vibrator but you keep the controls. come up with a compromise.

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Big Comfy Couch

If a person desires you and wants you they will want YOU and ONLY YOU, no one else because no one will give them the feeling they get when they are around you. Im sorry but thats just going too far .. but again she lead a different life before so try to be a bit understanding and see how you can find a middle ground with one another.

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Apple

I personally think it isn't a good idea. When she was an escort, it sort of gave her an edge, it excited her. So because she's had a baby and is sort of tied down in some way, she's missing her old rebellious life. If someone really loves you, they won't make you feel as if you're doing something wrong or even go as far as jeopardizing your relationship. If you're not okay with it, don't force yourself to be. You feel the way you feel because you know its not okay. She has a baby now, that's not the message she wants to send to her child. She needs to think about the many diseases also, no one who wants to have sex with you will tell you they have AIDS or HIV unless they're that brave. You know your worth, don't degrade it over someone who wants to make wrong decisions, you love her. But if she loved you she wouldn't do this to you. You seem like a very monogamous man and very family oriented don't ruin that. As for the little boy, you could still be there for him. Your love for him with will never die, I assure you. I hope it all goes well.

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Kalifornia Kisses

It's very dangerous to fall into a belief that there is only ONE person for another. For some, monogamy is what works best, and for others, open relationships or polyamourous. You need to think about how you feel about these situations, how she feels and the level of communication you have.The best thing you can do is to keep the dialogue going, having open discussions about how you both feel about your current situation. There is plenty of literature about open relationships and polyamerous ones that may or may not be helpful to read.

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Syropae

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