Is Change really that bad?

You nailed it, Brandon. Selfish is the short term for it. But don't get too worked up over it or you could go through life bitter! And you don't want to do that! There are too many joyous things to experience without adding the baggage of worrying about someone else's attitude!

That's one, very rude way to look at it. Yes there are people who have hateful, abusive or downright negative traits to themselves, but there are others who don't, who have harmless, positive traits that others don't seem to like. You're saying those people should change because others don't like it. I'm not a talker. That's harmless, but do you find it selfish of me to choose not to change because someone who is very verbal wants me to?

Now I'm not going to say you have to love me for who I am, you don't like me for what I am then fine, go on your merry way. But I will not become someone I'm not just to satisfy someone else.

I am absolutely not being rude and I'm not dissuading the positive out of it, but I'm trying to be realistic, everything in life is about change no matter how you argue it, our very existence as human beings revolves around change and adaptation. You can't possibly think that change is not a solution to problems. If someone is antagonizing you because of who you are, who is to say you can't change something in your life to avoid those people? That isn't changing you, but you are still changing to something more reasonable to your life. I don't care if someone is "awkward", "unusual" "weird" "creepy" whatever...I'm not really any exception, HOWEVER I've become who I am today because of how I've made changes in my life about who I am, what I do, and who I want to be and honestly I've turned out pretty good in my opinion, I have learned to let go of and eliminated all the negatives in my past, I've been able to forgive a lot easier (both others and myself), and I've become a lot happier too. I'm not trying to call anyone out, but if you don't want to change, then a therapy website where people promote good changes and possible solutions for others lives, I'm not sure if this is the place for you? I want people to understand that there is nothing wrong with change and just because people tell you to stick to "who you are" there's nothing wrong in making adjustments to make life easier and happier for you. I feel horrible when I see people getting picked on and pushed around because they refuse to change anything about them, no one ever said you had to change to be someone submissive did they? You can change and grow into a stronger better person, that alone is enough to destroy the confidence of those trying to bring you down. I'm not being mean or nasty to those who believe they are fine with who they are, just realize that it would be hypocritical to become a person to "not change themselves" because someone told them to, am I not right? You've changed who you are to become someone resistant to change, exactly the way the person who told you wanted you to do.

I think it could go both ways, but typically, change is inevitable. Accepting who you are is one thing, but wanting to be someone else with given incentives is another.

People dislike me because I'm a little unusual. Should I change myself into something more normal because unusual intimidates them? No. I'm going to find someone else who is unusual who is glad I am unusual and we can be unusual together.

Would say it is a rude way of looking at it and your overthinking it. What it means is to love yourself no matter what anyone else thinks but it can be seen it both ways I guess.

So basically the solution is to become someone you're not to make life easier for you and those around you, or just not go outside! Great.