I had a pretty bad break up from a mentally abusive relationship. I had a lot of hatred for my ex and still do an extent I hated her for what she did and then for still having the power to make me feel that way after we were done. To help me stop the overwhelming hatred I made and still make excuses for how she acted. I do not try to fool myself into that it was a healthy relationship but try to make it seem more reasonable. I never want to or will go back to her I just want the anger to end. Is this a healthy way to deal with that. The only reason I ask is my friends yell at me for doing this but I just refuse to let her have any power over me anymore.