How can you be happy being alone?

Good day to you Jozy :). I've just joined blah therapy after reading this and I must say that I can relate so much to what you're going through. I'm willing to help, so please feel free to message me, I'm all ears.

I was like this when I was younger. It gets better, it really does. Keep being nice to people and believe me, people will realize you are an amazing person.

One of the keys to finding a true friend is to change the way you look at people. Not just nice people, but everyone. Our society is obsessed with stereotyping, criticizing, and pointing out flaws in every single person we look at. Furthemore, the media is all about associating certain looks and behaviors with what's "bad" or "good". If you can find it in your heart to see the light in every single person, even those with angry faces (probably had a bad day too), then your own heart will be brighter and others will be attracted to it. Not enough people make the effort to see past peoples' masks. As humans, as social creatures, communication is a two-way thing. And even if most people don't return this attitude, for you, just liking other people more will make you feel better about yourself as well.

Omg, you are alot like me! I know what it feels like, i'm always the one nice to others, i do everything for them yet when i ask, they never bother to help me. Message me if you want to chat to someone that's going through the same thing :D

Thank you to the both of ya'll for responding. It warms my heart...

A lot of it is self contentment, however a lot of it is also allowing yourself the freedom to be yourself and giving yourself permission to say 'no' when you want to say no. There is nothing wrong with being nice, but when you are sacrificing your own personal freedom and happiness in order to do so, then you are only hurting yourself, and others will see that and take advantage of it.

In my experience, I've found that people tend to gravitate towards those who can boldly be themselves, no matter what it is that makes them so. While they tend to say that opposites attract, I've found the opposite true when it comes to human interaction and grouping, in the sense that a kind hearted person will attract more kind hearts into their lives, and someone who is a jerk will attract more jerks into their life. Seeing as how you are a kind person who is always willing to help out, I have no doubt that, should you free yourself, you would attract some wonderful people into your life. Though it doesn't happen overnight. Sometimes the best people take even years to discover or to find their way into our lives. But it's these people who will make us feel alive, and feel good about ourselves.

So, to conclude, I'd like to advise you to grant yourself the freedom to be yourself, whether that means making silly/strange sounds throughout the day, randomly bursting into song, or even sporadically dancing to a beat, whether it be invisible or clear as day. Also, don't be afraid to hurt someone's feelings if what you feel is not in alignment with what they would like. Grant yourself the freedom to say no to things you disagree with, and to say yes to the things that you do agree with. When you set yourself free this way, like minded individuals will be able to identify themselves in you, and through that you will have a friend in others. Not only that, but you will also feel good about being who you are, and that comes with a sense of personal happiness and contentment as well. It's a road to a better, happier you, and there is no better time than now to start exercising that kind of freedom. You'll be quite thankful you made the decision to do so, I can guarantee that.

This is all too farmiliar. You can be happy being alone but everyone, even introverted people, need a someone to be there for them during harsh times. To talk of how they feel or just to be eachother's bff simply put. I truly do hope you find that friend . And youve come to the right place

@Poet True, you have a good point. Thanks for your words. :) However, that hollow feeling is still there deep down inside of me. I find it hard to shake it off. I know that EVERYONE in the whole wide world has a mask they pull off to show society. No matter what race, religion, sex, etc…..everyone. It's just that the feeling weighs down on me like a boulder, one by one. The fact that I constantly am there for someone, but I don't have the same thing in return. It's always been the same way ever since I was a child. It's not that I'm selfish in any way possible. But the feeling of emptiness and just wanting someone to be there for me is what I'm getting at. I know everyone has their own demons of darkness or their angels of light. I just want someone to care. To actually care about if I'm going through a problem and will see past my "its fine" facade. I've been trying to stay motivated, be happy, and think thoughtfully; especially concerning everyone and what they are all going through too. In the end, at night…….. I end up crying. Staring up blankly on the ceiling…. just silently crying. No pouting or any sounds. Tears just rolling down my cheeks, till I slowly fall to sleep. I'm not trying to make my problem super big or anything cause there are others out there (whom i pray for) that have it worse than I do. I'm just saying that it would help that if in actual real life someone was there for me, like I am for them……. It's hard carrying this boulder. :( As well as again thank you to @Charlotte96, @haleyyy, @insignificant , @angeldemon, and @Elusive Mind for responding. Mucho appreciado for your kind words :)

Be happy duh