How can I STOP liking this guy?

Well, I’m 14, we’ve known each other for almost five years. I used to have a major crush on him, but it’s died down a bit. I’m almost 99% sure he liked me back, based off of his behavior. We only see each other at church, since I’m homeschooled.

Last year, he moved up a grade and was forced to go to the next class. Most of my friends did too, since I’m in eighth grade because my birthday is late in the year. And ever since, we’ve stopped talking to each other. He kind of ignores me, or so I think. He never likes any of my Instagram posts, and he even gave me a TBH that said “TBH-We used to be in the same Sunday school class together.” So that’s pretty much all he thinks of me.

But I STILL like him, and I don’t want to anymore. Every time I see him, I want him to notice me, but he never does. And I hate having mini heart breaks every time I see him. I want to focus on something OTHER than him, but my mind keeps reverting back to “What can I do to get him to like me?” Help!

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White_Noise

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He probably just sees you as a friend, since you've been friends for 5 years. Sometimes friendships fade out a bit and he might be hanging around with other people more now. The fact that he doesn't likes your instagram posts doesn't indicate whether he likes you or not. You could try to have a talk with him and ask if you two can go hang out sometime. You can't 'make' someone like you. They either do or they don't. You'll only know if you try to hang out with him and see how that goes.

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Rain

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While it's hard to stop liking someone, there's a few things you can try. First off, when you catch yourself thinking of ways to make him like you, try to cut yourself off. Instead, focus on the things you don't like about him. (You can begin with the fact that he's stopped talking to you.) If that doesn't work, you can also try transferring your feelings to something or someone else. If you spend more time reading, or drawing, or talking to your friends, you'll end up with less space in your head to focus on him.

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Anybody

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