Boyfriend making me feel guilty about my insomnia?

For the last few weeks we’ve been sleeping separately because I wake up in the night and can’t get back to sleep. On weeknights I can understand – its best because he has to get up early for work.
On weekends we sleep in, so I asked if he’d want to sleep in bed with me tonight. He said no because ‘he doesn’t like having a shitty sleep because of me and feeling tired the next day.’
But instead of being truly understanding about it, I feel like he resents me for it, which is causing me even more anxiety. I know it must be annoying, but I feel so much less close to him when we never share our bed.
Has anyone else experienced trouble sharing a bed with an insomniac?

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Kaitlan

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Personally, I think that the moment he said "he doesn’t like having a shitty sleep because of you and feeling tired the next day" the problem stopped being about sharing a bed with an insomniac and became about having an inconsiderate boyfriend.
I don't know your boyfriend but this is the mark of someone who not only won't always be there for you in your bad days, but someone who will also get pissed at you for dragging your cloud into his sunny skies.

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ASOT

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What ASOT said is perfectly right, I was once told that "don't cross oceans for someone who would jump over a puddle with you". Liking someone and loving someone are two different things. I won't repeat what already has been said but I hope you understand that you deserve better. We think that small things as such don't count but we forget that it is these very small things that pile up and become a big thing. Don't miss out on live because of one person who has no respect for you. Life is full of opportunity, you will get someone who will actually treat you well. Say goodbye to that jerk and live your life as you should. I hope the very best for you...!!!

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Jai

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Because he said the "because of you" part makes him sound like an ass. My boyfriend and I have insomnia and shitty sleep schedules. When one of us has a moment to sleep and the one awake leaves the one who is asleep alone. The person who needs to wake up at a certain time we leave them alone to their own sleep routine. You and your boyfriend should try this. If your boyfriend does not want to sleep in he should use his words wisely to not sound like a jerk and just say "I do not wish to sleep in tonight". You and your boyfriend both deserve the right sleep schedule. Talk to him about it and tell him how he came off and you want to work this out.

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