Advice for a Long Distance Relationship?

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I met this named whom, I will call RC, when he and I were both in 8th grade. We become really close friends and in our freshman year of highschool began to date. We dated for six months, broke up, and then moved to the next state over. Now we’re both Juniors, and we’ve kept good contact talking on the phone a couple times a week. Him and I recently had a long discussion about what went wrong in our old relationship and we had a deep discussion about it which made us realize that we both still had feelings for each other. We talked about starting to start a long distance, but frankly I’m a little scared. Him and I only live three and a half hours away, but it would still be very hard for us to go and see each other.
So for those of which who have done long distance before, is it worth it? What are the pros/cons? What are some things that you and your significant other did to stay close despite the distance?
Thanks!
-Ashley

Category: Tags: asked August 11, 2013

7 Answers

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I am currently in a long-distance relationship and if you are both dedicated to it then it'll work out fine. Sure there are ups and downs but that's a given in any relationship. At least for you it's not so bad because the distance is doable for my situation we live across the states me on the west coast and him on the east due to school and whatnot. But we Skype at least once a week that's how we maintain contact pretty much. I'm pretty independent though and he was more clingy but we worked it through for the most part. Again it's your decision though, long-distance relationships are hard and I mean you are still young so it's not like you can't meet other people, but if you are both willing then go for it. Anyway I wish you all the best, if you have any more questions feel free to pm me, have a good one.
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I was in a long distance relationship for almost a year. We loved each other very much, and we both saw a future. But time and space apart wore us down and we ended up breaking up. And quite honestly, you're in high school. The odds that it will work out are slim as it is. When you factor in long distance, it's even less. The thing about long distance relationships is that they are a lot of work for very little payoff. Absence does not make the heart grow fonder. Out of sight, out of mind. No matter how much you talk you both still need time to yourselves, and it is very easy to grow apart when you don't see each other often as you said you probably wouldn't. And then you have to factor in that the two of you have already tried and failed once before. Any problems you had or have are exacerbated by the fact that you are apart. Communication is more important than ever, you have to find ways to be... intimate, and no matter how strongly you feel about each other, there's a good chance you will both feel like you aren't really part of the other person's real life. I have never seen a long distance relationship work out. I wish you the best whatever you decide, but you need to know what you're getting into.
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Its very worth it! I have had a long distance relationship, and it was one of my best relationships. We are taking a break right now, but I understand exactly what you're going through. The one I was in a long-distance relationship with lives only two hours, but we have yet to meet up. Theres been times we have made plans to meet up, but I'm only 15, and can't travel. But they always work out, as long as you don't talk too often. Sure, video chat, call, text. Just don't talk 24/7. It'll just make you both drift apart. Thats really the only con other than the not visiting often part. But the pro's is, you actually get to be with someone you want to be with. But just keep in contact. Video chat. It's worth it, trust me.
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If you see a possible future with this person, go for it. Definitely. If you don't, you'll only wonder about what could have been. Just remember that long-distance requires a lot of trust.
I'm currently in a long-distance relationship, since my boyfriend moved 600 miles away a few months ago. We talk on the phone a lot, but much of that time is spent in near-silence as we do our own thing. That way, we can get things done (or just watch YouTube videos) and still feel like we're in the same room. It's often reassuring to know that they're just there. We also play online games together, like Minecraft. :)
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It's different for every couple, but if you both are willing to make it work, you won't have any major issues. You both have to be willing to make the effort to contact/visit. Yes you'll each have your separate things to do, but they are still your partner and they would like to hear from you.
I definitely think it's worth it. You get SO excited when you get to spend time with them, and you have so much more to talk about than when you see them every day. And it gives you opportunities to actually go on dates and do memorable things because your time is so limited. You can even write letters when you're apart, if you're a romantic like me.
I can't give you a straight answer of yes or no for it's worth it. You have to decide for yourself if your relationship is worth giving this a shot.
Obviously it won't be all rainbows and butterflies all the time, but you can get through the bad times.
Just take as much time as you need to think about it.
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You need communication and trust and to be able to visit often. So, money. Be prepared to feel lonely.
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I think you guys should go for it. Long distance can be a challenge especially if jealousy is a factor because you can't really be sure of what your significant other is doing. Long distance relationships are difficult but not impossible. Text messaging, Skype, phone calls, playing video games together, are all components that can keep you guys feeling close. In a long distance relationship a couple phone calls a week are not going to cut it, there shouldn't be a day that you guys don't talk. If you can't talk on the phone everyday you should text each other throughout every day. Three hours is not that much of a distance, plus you guys are juniors in high school which means is you guys can't drive yet you will be able too soon. Also, you're high school career is coming to a close and if you guys become really serious you can plan your after high school lives together and possibly live close. I think you should risk it and take a chance it just might pay off.