Unknown said 10 years, 8 months ago:
It’s difficult to actually make an conclusion on how to help others in coping with a certain amount of loss or pain because to be honest, everyone copes in their own way as much as different people treat things differently. In my own personal experience, I just try to give those people a push in the right direction. A little grain of motivation to not always keep their head downwards but instead see that the birds still go on chirping, the sun comes up and the newspaper boy drops the news right in front of your front door. In others words, the grieving and the pain won’t change much to the outside world. The only thing that changes is your perception and thought process as an reaction on ‘that’ what happened. But other people will most likely still see you as the person who goes to class/work, visits the grocery store, and is respected, admired and most importantely, loved by those who support you through thick and thin. That is something to look at for me because while everything may seem cloudly and rainy, there are still enough, who wouldn’t want to see more than you being happy.
It may sound easier said than done and I wouldn’t like to admit that I’m ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ because those two things don’t matter when it comes to coping methods because in the end, everyone has their own ways of coping and if they start feeling better because of that? I’ll leave them be. I throw my arm over their shoulders but it’s not me who needs to ‘recover’, it’s them. They can only make the decision to do so or not.
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